Miscarriage is lonely.

[Pippi Longstocking]

'Scuse the whinge, just need to get this out.
This is my first ever miscarriage, at 6 weeks 2 days after having had 5 healthy robust large bouncing babies.
I am shocked at how alone I feel. Nobody really wants to talk about it. I mentioned it to one of my good friends and she didn't want to hear about my story, she just launched in to her own miscarriage story about what happened to her and how she felt. It was 6 years ago! This is happening to me now!
My husband is dealing with stuff his way (ie. fingers in ears chanting lalalala).
I don't even know if I actually do want to talk about it. Me, confused? Nah! I just really feel like I am doing this on my own and it's lonely. My belly hurts, I am bleeding heavily and my heart aches. I guess I just need a cuddle and someone to share it with, y'know?
Ok, so I am whinging. Now tell me to get over it, heaps of women have heaps more problems and I am being a drama queen.

[melfunction]

Yes Guv, get over it.

Get over the fact that a miscarriage is a very traumatic experience for anyone and you do deserve a cuddle and have every right to be upset.

You know I don't give these out to just anyone

[Lozie]

sorry for your loss M/C is hard, we have lost 2 babies, i know how ya feel, it does get better

[ButterflyMama]

You don't have to get over it.. you need to talk about it or not talk about it, whatever you feel. I have a friend who is similar to yours, although I've never had a miscarriage, it was a different issue, but she closed off about my experience and went on about hers.. it's not fair.

Don't really have any pearls of wisdom, just know that I am here for you and thinking of you. What happened really is a tragedy, but things will get better.

Have a hug

Jessie

[Nickster]

I know how you feel, Guv, and it's certainly a time where you find out who your real friends are.

Suddenly you see babies everywhere and everytime you see someone who is pregnant or expecting near your due date, it just about breaks your heart. See, I'm still dealing with it all myself.

Please take the time to grieve for your lost hopes and don't ever feel like what you are going through is not important.

Thank heavens for bubhub, hey?

[BubbaNoogie]

You are not being a drama queen.

Unfortunatly nobody really knows how to react, when told this sort of news, so it does end up being a pretty lonely situation.
I know how you are feeling, when I try to talk to people about mine, they stare blankly and change the subject.
Thats why bubhub is a good place to come, lots of ladies have been through the same thing and will give lots of support and love.

It is a really unfair, suckful, s**t thing, miscarriage.

Big big to you honey.

[nut]

It's like some sort of secret in our society that we're not meant to ever speak of.

I'm so sorry for your loss and so sorry that you're feeling isolated. I reckon the way you're feeling is entirely normal and you shouldn't feel the need to apologise for it.

[reAllytee]

Talk , whinge, cry, scream, rant, blubber whatever you need to get through it ! Noone can judge you on this & people should be willing to let you grieve.

Lucky you have BH hey !

My sister has been through 10 m/c & it doesnt get easier so you have every right to go through this process however you want !

I hope today is a little easier & remember that everyone is here for you !

[Bron]

Guv'nor, you're absolutely right. Miscarriage is incredibly lonely, at a time when what you most need is support.

I'm really sorry that your friend hasn't been helpful. It is a very trying time, but really, all a friend needs to do is hug you and listen and cry with you.

Don't apologise for venting about it here, it's what this section is for.

Take care, grieve, we understand.

[CurlyG]

Just wanted to give you a big
If you lived near me I'd wrap you up in a blanket with a hot water bottle for your tummy, make you endless cups of tea, give you hugs when you needed it and listen to every word you felt you needed to say.

I'm really sorry for your loss Guv