When do toddlers "remember things"???

[Jo9999]

I have been talking to other Mums who go on about their toddlers (the same age as Kayla) counting to 10, singing full songs, knowing the whole alphabet and all the colours in the rainbow... you get the picture!
Well Kayla doesn't, she is almost 2 1/2 knows her numbers but can't remember the right order same with alphabet, songs are a non event (she hums... probably a good thing if she has Mummy's voice ) and all colours are either Girl Colours (pinks, purples etc) or Boy Colours (blacks, blues, browns)...
Should she be remembering this stuff?
She is doing great in other things, vocabulary excellent, social skills great, using imaginative play etc... but you know how you always get unsure when talking to other parents whose children are doing multiplication tables by now
Anyway, thought I would just ask at what age did your child learn to count to 10, know their colours and remember a song (like Twinkle twinkle...)

[SassyMummy]

DD's only 20 months and doesn't know colours, numbers etc... but she DOES use her memory.

If you're trying to teach your daughter how to sing songs, how to count, etc, then you're doing all you can IMO. She'll get it in her own time.

[mama2cierra]

I agree with Sassy..
My daughter is 2 in 2 weeks and she can only say 'one and two' out of her numbers.
she has no idea about alphabet even tho we read plenty of alphabet books. she doesnt talk much (still babbles and slurs) but im hoping shes storing her vocab up and then i'll be pleading her to hush up

_Amy

[pegasus]

What you'll find is that knowing letters, numbers etc but not in order isn't too much to do with memory - it's more to do with a perceptual skill called sequencing (auditory and visual).

The best you can do with regards to helping along memory is things like recap the day - like at bedtime - say - "do you remember what we did today?"

I do this when hubby gets home from work and says hi to DS - I'll say: "Can you tell daddy what you did today? - do you remember how we went to playgroup then we got home and had some lunch before playing some playdough?" You get the picture....

Continue counting blocks, or whatever to reinforce the sequence of numbers etc, but the more your little one can remember concrete things like what they've done - the better they'll remember more abstract things. I continue to say names of letters when we see them, and also have flash cards with numbers and letters on them.

I think it's an achievement when my DS remembers things like time to go to toilet, or where he left his drink or who lives at the house we've pulled up at to visit.

The numbers and letters will come if the concrete stuff is there

Sorry if that sounds a bit 'clinical' but I think I put my therapist hat on

[Nan]

I guess it's the same as any area of development - different for each child. It's a pain to have to say that, but its true!!

My 16.5 month DD is starting to get a good memory just now, but not for numbers and letters etc like the children you describe. Hers is more for events like what we did during the day and people's houses etc, which is the first stage, I guess.

Pegasus has given you some great suggestions. I'd definitely give them a go.