Not now dear 3 is enough!

**MrsTwith3** · 06-04-2007 11:20

Ok well I have had nothing else but having a 4th baby on my mind now for the past few months. The thing is my DH doesnt want anymore. I respect his decision but I am finding it increasingly hard to come to terms with me never being pregnant, never giving birth and never holding my own newborn babe in my arms ever again.
I dont know if I will ever be able to accept it. My heart feels like it is being torn apart whenever I think about it.
Is their anyone else out their who feels like this and is coming up against major resistance from their DH?

Mel

**Shanaynay** · 06-04-2007 11:36

No resistance from DH here, he'd love another one of even ten right now!
But I have that conflict in myself, one part of me is desperate to have another baby right now, the other part (brain perhaps?

) is telling me it would be a very silly thing to do right now.....

Maybe he will change his mind as DS gets older. He's still a baby, maybe in a year DH will miss that baby stage....

I know that feeling of yearning so badly for another baby - I have this overwhelming NEED to do it all again - I don't know, maybe I just want to experience a great birth, maybe I just want to buy more cloth nappies

- but whatever it is, it's a really frustrating feeling.

Do you think he doesn't want one the same amount as you DO want one? Does that make sense? Maybe you can comprimise if he doesn't feel as strongly as you.... ie. you get to have another one :P

**Ffrenchknickers** · 06-04-2007 11:36

Uh - huh

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**bootiful** · 06-04-2007 11:44

I can understand your urge, I had a wonderful pregnancy (as short as it was) and am excited at the thought of becoming preganant again soon.

I was just wondering...what if your urge is not cured after another baby

will you try for no.5

I don't think the urge stops until you hit menopause

as pregancy and child birth is such a fantastic experience and its like a drug...a real adrenalin rush.

I'm sure you and your hubby will do what is right...and if you do decide to ttc#4 good luck

**Ffrenchknickers** · 06-04-2007 11:46

I was just wondering...what if your urge is not cured after another baby will you try for no.5

lol,I am wondering the same thing....I have always assumed that I will just know when Im finished...what if I dont??? Will I feel like this forever?? Will I end up with 18 kids?? lol

**iluvmeboyz** · 06-04-2007 20:41

Originally Posted by Ffrenchstar

lol,I am wondering the same thing....I have always assumed that I will just know when Im finished...what if I dont??? Will I feel like this forever?? Will I end up with 18 kids?? lol

**mumma_jessy** · 07-04-2007 22:31

I had a DF that was sure he didn't want anymore when we had #2, so much so that he had his first appointment about getting the snip after she was born.

I managed to get him to seriously think about it, and he changed his mind. I was lucky though, i had come to terms with the fact that if he didn't say yes, i would have to accept it and be happy that i got 2 beautiful babies! (more than some people can have)

I would have been very disapointed, and upset for a while, three has always been the number i wanted. I am positive that this is the last, i can honestly say i do not want any more children after this one. So yes, it does happen, i think everyone has a number that they get to eventually when they say "thats enough for me"

Hope you find your number soon, or get DH to side with you somehow!

**JenNT** · 07-04-2007 23:07

I feel exactly the same unfortunately. Have done since I had Lucas 18 months ago. I cannot accept the fact that I will never be pregnant again, never feel those wonderful first movements, the excitement of a scan. I have 3 kids now, age 8 6 and 1 1/2. Hubby does not want anymore, bit of a problem really

Then i start to think would i feel this way after I have another.When does it stop? Does that feeling stop? Also age is against me, I'm 35.I also have kidney probs.Guess its not meant to be.

**blessedmummy** · 10-04-2007 16:07

i know what ya mean! wish i could convince my dh to try for another bub soon.....hmmmmm.....i hope so anyhow!

**tawk06** · 18-04-2007 15:28

i can never make up my mind on this issue. i absolutely adore my 2 DD and would love to try for a boy. there are a few things stopping me -

1) my DH is just as confused as me about how many to have (what a great pair we make!)

2) what if we have another girl - will I just want to keep going until we have a boy?

3) We've just bought our 1st house and its only got 3 bedrooms. I know the girls can share like they are at the moment but how will I know when enough is enough?

Maybe I'm just clucky as I know of at least 5 people who are all expecting their first baby! I know how much hard work they are so I shouldn't be wearing rose coloured glasses still but I can't help it - they just too damn cute for words!