I gave birth to my darling little boy 11 weeks ago. I was hoping for a five hour water birth, but the boy was posterior and I suffered a 37 hour labour - 15 hours of it under epidural on my back. I'm only 5'1" and he was 3590 grams - not little! I had an episiotomy after 2 hours of pushing and a vaccuum extraction to get him out. At the time my temperature spiked, so they dosed us both up on antibiotics. My subsequent stay in hospital was absolutely horrible and just added to my trauma. He was taken to the Special care nursery for observation Ė so I was by myself with no baby or husband when they finally transferred me to the wards. I was absolutely beside myself I found it very difficult to breastfeed and it took 6-7 days for my milk to finally come in. (not to mention the huge hemorragh with no transfusion or the shock that I was in straight after the birth.)
I had no initial pain in the peri area and only had one ice pack in hospital (now I realise the whole area was numb.)
3 weeks later my whole vag swelled up like a sausage balloon, and I went off to the doc who confirmed I had an infection - not cleared up from the birth. My son then had a severe reaction to the horrible anitbiotics I was put on. I had to wean.
I was in constant pain and described it as a soreness at the front of my vagina (near the urethra opening) and feeling grazed. At my six week check I made my doc do a swab, which came back with nothing. Again at 8 weeks I had an internal swab at my insistence - a minor infection was diagnosed. so more antibiotics.
AT this point I was getting frustrated, and the antib's hadn't made me feel any better. I am constantly exhausted, depressed and have nagging pain in the whole genital and abdominal area. Occaisionally there's also been blood when doing a poo too. I can't walk very far without getting tired, have not been able to walk round the block and it takes me two hours to walk/hobble around the shops. By the end it feels like my bum is about to fall out.
I got my dr to write a referral to a gyno. I saw Dr John Howland at the North West in Brisbane who straight away knew what was wrong.
I have terrible scarring from the birth around the circumference of my vagina. This has not healed properly and is pulling on all the muscles. I also have a rectal tear. THese two injuries are pulling on all the muscles in the area causing them to work over time and weakening them. Hence the pain. At the time I was told it was 2nd degree tearing but I think it was more like 3rd.
I burst into tears when the doc told me. I am having surgery this wednesday 4 april to fix it. I can't carry or pick up anything heavy for four weeks afterwards including my beautiful little boy. I might also need further surgery.
We attempted intercourse once, and havenít since. The gyno has said not to even attempt it till way after the op (he said Iíll hit the roof in pain if we do). At least we can amuse ourselves in other ways (I can still have an O without too much discomfort).
I am depressed, I spent yesterday in bed all afternoon. In constant discomfort and pain, and regret ever getting pregnant and never want to do it again (though I love my son and think he's amazing).
My husband has been amazing through all of this, but is losing his ability to cope too.
I am going to have counseling after I am recovered from the surgery.
I wish I had stayed private rather than switching to public.
Four out of the five girls I know had posterior first babyís in January. Only two of us birthed vaginally with our op babies.
I have also posted a version of this under Newbie story under the traumatic births bit.