How much does your hubby do?

**heymamma** · 19-12-2005 10:28

Hi ladies,

I would just like to know if my hubby is lazy or if it is alot of men are that way.
How much does ur hubby help you?
We have 3 kids 5yr old girl 18mth old boy & 7& half mth old boy... I have no family here on the gold coast nore any friends..they are all in syd.
He works 5days a week as most do....but when he gets home wants to sit down & watch TV... I get dinner on the table but ethan & phoenix are always screaming & carrying on as kids do... sometimes dh will get up & help but most of the time i have to ask him to do everything... When the weekend comes round he sits down watchs tv or goes on PC, & i said to him " i've noticed that you get a weekend from work, How come i dont?" He said what do u mean.... I said well on sat sun..you sit & relax but do i ...no i do washing take care of kids fold washing etc...mums work... he does help with the kids & some stuff but not much...& if he does i have always had to nag at him to do it.
E.g We finished dinner last night...he helped clear the table but instead of helping with the dishes went & layed down on the lounge room floor!!! I said "what are you doing?" he replies " im just relaxing for a bit" now i was like What!!!! .. well geee how i would love too do that also..but im afraid we have 3 kids to get ready for bed dishes to be done bottles to be made etc.
Then all i get is a filthy look!!!
Am i wrong here...do i ask to much??
Do u think i was to harsh there?

**Pixie** · 19-12-2005 10:50

I have to say I do it all and always have done. Even when I worked full time
In fact we had a bit of a fight yesterday as we had a cold lunch he finished last and didn't bother to put anything away, 1/2 hour later I saw it all sitting there, his answer..I knew you would do it

Anyway after a lot of tears and F yous on my part I think he got the message to actually do the right thing

he isn't normally like that BTW lol

I don't mind doing it all I enjoy housework and all that stuff. he spoils me rotten but sheer laziness is another thing!!!

**heymamma** · 19-12-2005 10:53

I think what bother's me most is that when im running around cleaning or somthing like that that's time i'm not getting with the kids... I find that the father's get to have all the fun playing & stuff where i just clean up after them or feed them...i never seem to get playtime cuz im busy picking up after him also.
I want playtime & cuddle's time to.

**sugar n spice** · 19-12-2005 10:54

No you are not alone, my dh works hard and when he is home he spends alot of time working on the computer doing more work. I know he has to that is what he is paid for but at the same time i would love some help around the house, he does bath the kids at night and gets them into bed though i am expected to do everything else and if i do ask if he can take the garbage out he winges and asks why does he have to do it. So i seem to be nagging all the time but im not asking him to do major stuff and when he does do somethings its like a couple of hrs later. ggggrrrrrrr. It must be a man thing, there born lazy. lol.

**Sarie** · 19-12-2005 10:54

I do 90% of the house work, but I'm a SAHM so I feel it's part of my job. However my hubby is great he comes home from work and gets straight into play time with the kids, or if I haven't started on tea he will do that.
He also cleans up the kitchen before we go to bed and a lot of mornings he puts the washing on before he goes to work.
He knows that having two little kiddies isn't an easy job, so he helps me out where he can.

OM · 19-12-2005 10:55

Originally Posted by kelharris

I find that the father's get to have all the fun playing & stuff where i just clean up after them(

Ditto in our household Kelharris!

**Pixie** · 19-12-2005 11:37

it's a hard situation isn't it.
when you are the one to be home all day you do, do so much so when they come home they don't want to do anything, which is fair enough if I was out working my *** off and came home and was expected to do a heap of stuff I wouldn't be very happy. But it's finding an even balance.

I wonder how things are going to be once I have the baby lol especially the first few weeks.

maybe talk to your hubby Kell tell him how you feel?

**giggles** · 19-12-2005 11:43

It's an awkward situation isn't it.

My DH does help out if I ask, but it's the fact that you have to ask for it that is a pain. And then you are made to feel like they are doing you a favour. Grrr!

He isn't very organised though whereas I am anal about absolutley everything so generally get peeved when he doesn't do something the way I would.

No win really.

**melfunction** · 19-12-2005 11:54

Sounds like I'm one of the lucky ones...

Dh works crap hours, but he always helps me around the house if I need him too. He feeds and baths K at night and puts him to bed. He will then get dinner ready if I haven't had a chance too.

We usually share everything so it makes life a lot easier.

In saying that, I always have to clean the bathroom