Perhaps I'm being just a tad silly???

**Lambie** · 28-03-2007 14:43

3 of our close couple friends, mainly the men, have been talking about leaving their wives/partners. I understand that they have been having problems for sometime now, but something about this is really causing my head to spin.

These 3 men are good friends with my DH, and I know that they talk like a pack of schoolgirls (even though they are in their 30-40's). They are all planning on living together for the time being and I am concerned that they will try and talk DH in IYKWIM!!!!

I believe that DH and I have a strong marriage and yes, we fight just like anyone else. So, should I be worried, or am I silly for even having these thoughts?

**bronny-jane** · 28-03-2007 14:51

wow those guys sound like their having a mid life crisis

you know what.... if your dh is going to leave, he would, no matter if things were great or not, have faith that he has his own mind

why not ask him why their leaving.... ask him his thoughts..be honest and tell him your fears/thoughts... just might put your mind at ease

**Grace3** · 28-03-2007 14:53

I don' think your being silly. I had something similar happen.

My husband loves to ride (bycycle) and he said to his mates I just don't get time anymore, they responded get a divorce and get rid of the MRS, then you will have all the time you need to ride.

I talked to him about it, because I was affended and worried, but he told me not to worry. Anyway he is too busy at Uni and work to be riding with his divorced male friends.

Try to talk to your husdand, if you can about how it makes you feel. If they are good mates they will leave him be happy with you and his family.

Grace

**Grace3** · 28-03-2007 14:55

Originally Posted by bronny-jane

wow those guys sound like their having a mid life crisis

you know what.... if your dh is going to leave, he would, no matter if things were great or not, have faith that he has his own mind

why not ask him why their leaving.... ask him his thoughts..be honest and tell him your fears/thoughts... just might put your mind at ease

I agree also with Bronny-jane

as well.

Grace

**BlakeNatsMum** · 28-03-2007 14:59

Originally Posted by Lambie

3 of our close couple friends, mainly the men, have been talking about leaving their wives/partners. I understand that they have been having problems for sometime now, but something about this is really causing my head to spin.

These 3 men are good friends with my DH, and I know that they talk like a pack of schoolgirls (even though they are in their 30-40's). They are all planning on living together for the time being and I am concerned that they will try and talk DH in IYKWIM!!!!

I believe that DH and I have a strong marriage and yes, we fight just like anyone else. So, should I be worried, or am I silly for even having these thoughts?

Wow!.. I can certainly understand how that would make your head spin!.. My Lord, and seeing as though you are really good friends with all of them and they are talking like that.. That is something that would shock the absolute pants off me if it were me..

The shock is something that I would have to deal with first, would make you sit back and wonder why on earth are they thinking about that and what on earth bought that all on??.. And are they indeed suffering a midlife crises, and would make you think "Is the whole world going mad?"

I can then understand your worry about whether they would try and co-erce (sp) your partner / hubby as well.. I would do what others have said and speak to your partner and find out what he thinks about it all and whether he could even tell you why they are thinking about doing this.. You would need the re-assurance from him that he isnt thinking about doing the same thing, even though he is a man of his own free will and it means nothing that he is still talking to these friends.. You would just need to put your own mind at ease..!

I can certainly understand your shock and your feelings at this point in time!..

I hope everything sorts itself out for you!..

Jen.

**Lambie** · 28-03-2007 16:33

Hey thanks for these replies ladies.

You're right, I need to discuss this (tactfully

) with DH and see how he feels about the whole situation.

I mean, when you really think about, he might just very well feel the same way as I (concerned the wives/partners, may suggest a few things to moi!!).

**damien's mum** · 28-03-2007 20:28

No No No, it's not silly at all!!! I would totally feel the same way aswell. You have sat there and been there, through all the talks, and that is why your mind is playing over and over it.

I think you should sit down and explain how you are feeling to your DH, he probably will be very understanding.

If you believe in yourself, your dh, and your marriage, you have nothing to worry about babe!

But it's not silly, not at all

**tootiredtosleep** · 28-03-2007 20:34

Most men I know talk **** and never, ever go through with it!! It might just be them venting to each other with no intention of going through with it.

If it was my DH in that situation, I know that he would love a bachelor pad to go to and hang out at, but he would always come home to me.