AP Discussion with Partners

[MilkOnTap]

Whilst pregnant, was AP something that you discussed with your partner? Was AP something you intended on at least giving a try when bub arrived? Or was it more-so something that just naturally evolved?

I'm 27 weeks pregnant and intend on giving EC a go, and trying to use as many AP methods like baby wearing, comforting, bf etc. I have briefly discussed my ideas with my partner, but haven't really gone into depth - I figure that'll all evolve. But will it? Is it something that we really need to sit down and agree on properly?

[Shanaynay]

Just naturally evolved

We just knew there was a way we wanted to do things, and a way we didn't.

[MordecaiAliVanAllenO'Shea]

A bit of both - we didn't discuss "AP" but we did talk about whether we wanted DS to sleep with us or not; DH said he understood if I used a pram when on my own with DS, but that he would never use it, he'd carry him; DH knew I wanted to bfeed. A lot of it though just evolved from our love for DS and what felt right. The more confidence we have gained as parents the more we are doing things regardless of whether they fit in with our more 'mainstream' friends/family.

I know when we have #2 I would trust my instincts from birth - we started EC with DS at 5.5months, but will try from birth with #2, will happily wear #2 in the sling for sleeps or feed to sleep from the beginning instead of persisting with all the things we were told we SHOULD be doing even when they didn't work.

Mel

[Rainbowbrite]

I didnt know what it was till MJ was about 6 months. Its just what we did without realising

[MilkOnTap]

I didnt know what it was till MJ was about 6 months. Its just what we did without realising

Yeah - this is what I'm kind of expecting to happen. Us just kind of fall into place. I mean - we both agree that bub should sleep in our room while I'm breastfeeding - just easier on us all that way I think. We both like and prefer the idea of using a hugabub as much as possible - and dont like the idea of using a 'baby sitter' (rocker). I'm all for EC and hubby will support it too...

Thanks ladies

[shed]

We didn't discuss many things, we just do it how I want.

DP is very easygoing.

Once you meet your baby you might change your mind on some things so its best to keep an open mind rather than setting your heart on a certain 'style' of parenting.

DS is a really 'easy' baby so we have been able to do the things we had hoped to do. Next baby might be different.

Whatever you decide to do will be good. Your baby is lucky.

[reAllytee]

We didn't discuss many things, we just do it how I want.

DP is very easygoing.

Once you meet your baby you might change your mind on some things so its best to keep an open mind rather than setting your heart on a certain 'style' of parenting.

DS is a really 'easy' baby so we have been able to do the things we had hoped to do. Next baby might be different.

Whatever you decide to do will be good. Your baby is lucky.

Beautifully said !

Every baby is different & some prefer things one way etc. We talked about it i suppose but nothing really cemented in as we wanted to work out bubs first before we decided our "plan" so to speak.
With Boof he didnt like to co-sleep so we went with what he wanted & he went into his cot at around 4wks. Made me incredibly nervous etc but it was what made him happy ! Which is my priority.
But through the day he loved being held so thats what happened he was always with me either in his carrier/sling & still is ( well ok not in the sling lol but nearby unless The Wiggles are on ).

I was a baby who co-slept until i was 6yrs old but my older sister was a baby who hated even being held to feed let alone cuddle or sleep near.

Just go with the flow hun all will develop in time !