Mothers group vent

**trina73** · 02-03-2007 10:36

We have been going to Mothers group for 3 years now and we have all become good friends, but lately things are not so good. there are 3 ladies in our group that are very close and so are their hubbies and they are always over each others houses which is fine it doesn't bother me but they have been going out on our alternate mothers group day which we normally do something, without the rest of us

and there seems to be a bit of b!tching goin on.
Last week at mothers group my son who is autistic was playing up abit and he got a few nasty stares

sometimes i feel left out because of my sons condition and i feel that this is the reason that i'm not included. shall i say how i feel or is it best to leave it alone. i don't know what to do

**iluvmeboyz** · 02-03-2007 10:45

so sorry for the bad experience i have had the same prob but i dont worry about it anymore ,i have to much in my fife to be in a mothers group maybe find another group or the rest that are being left out do a little group and dont worry about the others

**neeshNgeorgia** · 02-03-2007 10:47

That's a shame that a mothers group has become like that for u. Mum's groups are supposed to be there for support and helping each other out.

I dunno if i can give u ne advice, cos i wouldn't know what to do either.
With the few that have become close i wouldn't say ne thing, if they want to seperate them selves from the group so be it, that's totally up to them, and really they lose out, they'll lose the support and help from the rest of u girls.

As for u feeling out of place because of ur son's condition, DON'T! that is not their place to make u feel like that, i would speak up about that. It's not right, y should they feel like they can "stare" at ur child when he plays up, all kids do, it's apart of being a child!

Hope i could help out a little,

to u, maybe get the rest of the girls and do something without telling the other "few" and see how they like it!

**trina73** · 02-03-2007 10:58

Thanks girls, another thing that bothered me last week is that apparently my ds had punched one of the other boys in the nose, in which h e was no where near the boy, and the mother turned around and said ' oh but he isn' t the type to lie about it ' well my son can't defend himself as he doesn't talk, can't win

**IheartOman** · 02-03-2007 11:11

It's always going to happen eventually when you put a group of women together! We cant help but get nasty

I suggest chaning groups, nothing lasts forever.. Friends are there for a season reason or lifetime.. Looks like the seasons are changing

**FluffyDucks** · 02-03-2007 11:20

Originally Posted by Shanilee

I suggest changing groups, nothing lasts forever.. Friends are there for a season reason or lifetime.. Looks like the seasons are changing

I agree with Shanilee. Its nice that you could get together over the last three years but if they are starting to get funny and not being understanding of your sons condition I would just blow them off and find a new more supportive group.

Lifes too short to waste your time on people that cant be bothered to take the time to think about other people.

Certainly you could speak with them but I would bet any money that they would all pretend innocence and say "what? us? nooooo!".

I must admit I dont know much about autisim and therefore dont understand what it would be like being a mum in your situation but I am sure if I was in your mothers group (for three years!) I would have taken some time to understand...and not just shut you out.

Blow em off! Find a more supportive group! No point wasting your time thinking about them any more then you have to!

**trina73** · 02-03-2007 11:21

Originally Posted by Shanilee

It's always going to happen eventually when you put a group of women together! We cant help but get nasty

I suggest chaning groups, nothing lasts forever.. Friends are there for a season reason or lifetime.. Looks like the seasons are changing

sounds that way to me too. it seems to me that they have formed their own group.

**SorenLorensen** · 02-03-2007 11:21

for you and your boy
that is just plain nasty, and also the reason i have more male friends then female,
hope you work it out soon

**lachys_mama** · 02-03-2007 11:23

I'm so mean, when they bought up your son punching another kid in the nose (don't worry i believe you he didn't) I would have shrugged and ever so politely smiled and said 'well he probably deserved it' and walked off and found myself another mothers group who doesn't have women who think better of themselves than they are... or maybe you should have punched her in the nose and said "oops i guess it runs in the family"

seriously though

to you and I'm sure there are some better mothers groups out there, maybe you could make your own up or something from the ladies on bubhub (i dunno where you're from though)... anyways like always i just rambled on complete nonsense

hope your situation gets sorted for you

**IheartOman** · 02-03-2007 11:27

Originally Posted by lachys_mama

I'm so mean, when they bought up your son punching another kid in the nose (don't worry i believe you he didn't) I would have shrugged and ever so politely smiled and said 'well he probably deserved it'

Same!