Well, I think I've been to two weddings in my whole life (one when I was about 12, and the other when I was about 15...). Needless to say, I have very little experience with them.
I'm almost 21 and pretty anti-social (well, not really... I just don't like big groups of friends), and hence have not had friends get married. But now, my bestie is getting married (well, end of next year, but she's planning it now anyway). I'll be one of 2 bridemaids (maybe a 3rd... but I don't think so).
Anyway, one bridesmaid is me, obviously, and the other is her DH-to-be's sister. I've only met her once... but she seems like a trouble bridesmaid. I guess she'd be a bridesmaidzilla. lol. She SUBTLY tries to tell my bestie that she doesn't like her ideas, and tries to get my bestie to change her mind.
While I've told my bestie that I don't want to look like a bit of lard wrapped in pink satin, I'm pretty much happy to wear/do whatever she wants. I'll give her my opinion if she asks, (which she probably will), but I'm not going to complain just because it's not what I'D choose.
The thing is, I don't really know what's required of me as a Bridesmaid. It's good, because I don't think she knows what's expected of me either... but I still want to be a good bridesmaid.
What type of things should I be expected to do? What things should I really steer clear of doing?
I've already somewhat helped her pick out a colour theme for her wedding... and given her a few ideas about different things (like, she wanted us to wear stilettos in the park - I pointed out that the heels will just sink and make little holes everywhere....). I want to point this stuff out to her now, so that the day doesn't come and she goes "DAMN! I totally didn't even think about that!" Is it proper for me to do that?
Also, I don't really like her other bridesmaid simply because I think she's a bit of a dirty bogan (and manly) and implied that she'll be skinny and I'll be fat by the time the wedding comes round (she's pregnant and it will have been her third child. From what her brother says, she's not a skinny girl, and certainly isn't thin around the middle since having kids...). She also seems to be looking out for herself, and how to have a 'bargain' wedding... whereas I know my friend is not going to spend big, but she isn't going to do something just coz it's cheap. She tried to convince my friend to buy an off-the-shelf wedding dress from HARTS about a month ago... although she's not even getting married until November 2008, and that was the first dress she tried on (mainly because she wanted to feel like a bride... not coz she actually liked the dress that much).
So how can I be a good bridesmaid with a bridemaidzilla lurking nearby? I fear that I'll be the only decent bridesmaid for my friend... because I believe the other girl will just look out for herself.