Hi! Im new (and clucky)

[kelbel81]

Hi There,

Just thought I'd write and say hi, and see if there is anyone else out there who is in their mid 20's and really wants a baby, feels emotionally and physically ready, but is so sick of other people saying 'you've got plenty of time'. Isnt it up to me and my husband to decide that. I dont have to be in my 30's to have my first baby just because a lot of other people are. I cry every time i watch a baby show, everyone around me is having babies or is pregnant, girls at work, family members and its so hard watching everyone else experience it. I feel like i get patronised, people think i know nothing because i havent had a baby, everyone says 'oh you wait till you have one'. You go to baby showers and your the only one that hasnt had a baby and you get excluded from the conversations about each persons experiences.

I know everyone says if you wait till you can afford it you will never have a baby. But with our mortgage and car repayments there is no way we can live on one wage, and i dont get paid maternity leave so i could only take a couple of weeks off, and i really dont want to do that, not with my first. A few months would be minimum for me.

Is there anyone else who gets down about it but feels stupid because sometimes it feels like no one understands??

[deb1234]

hi i'll be almost 27 when our first baby arrives and mum still thought i was too young!! i know it is extremely difficult to afford to drop down to one income. i'm lucky enough to work from home, so i'll continue to do that part time after the baby is born. perhaps you could look into some working from home options?
haven't been to many baby showers because among our friends we are the first to have a baby (and get married) so everyone is a little behind us!

i hope you can work out your situation soon and plan for a baby for the right time for you & your DP.

[Milliner]

Hi there welcome to bubhub!! We didn't think that we could afford it, but you just do. (well we do anyway) I could never go back to work full time I just couldn't leave DS. I had him at 23 and now days that young to have a baby. I say go with your heart and don't listen to anyone else.

[RoarsomeMum]

You have come to the right forum hon.. I hope you find teh help/support and caring as well as the Humour (sooo important in teh TTC Struggle) that I have on Bubhub. I use to feel very alone in this struggle.
Im sure I'll see you around the TTC Threads, though, Here's hoping that your lil' one is not too far away.

[MilkOnTap]

Just thought I'd write and say hi, and see if there is anyone else out there who is in their mid 20's and really wants a baby, feels emotionally and physically ready, but is so sick of other people saying 'you've got plenty of time'. Isnt it up to me and my husband to decide that.

Absolutely! I was 20 years old when my husband (partner at the time) and I decided that we wanted to begin a family. All my friends thought I was nuts, all my family thought I was too young, but all we wanted was to do what we felt was right at the time.

Even after losing two babies within the first year of us attempting to begin our own family, we still had very little support from friends and family.

I'm now 22 years old (and married) and 25 weeks pregnant with a little boy. Needless to say everyone who gave us a hard time before has since forgotten about all their negative comments and are excited about the up-coming new addition to the extended family.

Best wishes beginning your family - and poo to all those who dont want to support you. At the end of the day it is your decision, and yours only.

[mz sv6]

Hello
n welcome to bubhub

[damien's mum]

Hello and welcome to the hub!

[michelleR]

hello I am new too!! Im a 23 y.o, SAHM (now) to a gorgeous little boy

hope to see you round

oxo

[Melo]

Hi and welcome to Bub hub

[~mia&ryan~]

Hi and welcome to bubhub! You will love it here. My DF and I were both 22 when our precious DD came into our lives.. It was the best time for us.. I dont think that age dictates whether or not someone will be a good parent...

I look forward to chatting to you around the threads..