help plz

[studyingECS]

ok i dont really no where this goes so i am just going to put it here.
i have been reading some threads and everyone is talking about the activitys they do with there kids and all the wonderful times that they have with there children i think that is great i just wish that i had that. the problem that has been playing on my mind is that my mum was and is very i guess courier minded and when i was a month old she sent me off to family day care 5 days a week all day , i had been going there all my through my childhood and then when i started school and was there before and after school untill i started high school and dont get me wrong i love my day care parents i think of them as my second family but still i feel that i was an accident and that my mum didnt really want me and i am sort of bitter towards her about it, i love her and i know she loves me but i have only realised lately that this is really making me depressed.
i dont know what i am looking for just some to accually listen i guess because i would never think of telling my mum it would break her heart. it doesnt help that i have other issues and this just adds to the pile

[jessgray]

hugs for you

maybe you can find a activity you and your mum can do together so you get to spend time together? like a craft lesson or just a day doing whatever?
have you ever told her how you feel

[studyingECS]

i havent because then she will say that she is a bad mother and she will be upset and i dont want to hurt her. maybe i should just grow up. i just wanted to get some advise from adults instead of speaking to my friend who probaby doesnt understand

[Jax Tellers Old Lady]

I think you need to tell your mum how you feel. She may be totally unaware of your feelings. A few years ago there had been isssues with my family that had been playing on my mind forever. I ended up writing my mum a letter and at the time she was hurt but she was able to get my side of things. This did not ruin the friendship and love between my mum and I. I actually think it helped her see things that she wasnt aware of and has since changed some things to make it right. Hope this helps. I know from experience it doesnt pay to keep things bottled up. Reach out to your mum she loves you no matter what and she may take it better than you think. Hugs for you and hope you get it resolved.

[Grizabella]

Hun you don't need to grow up - obviously this is a very real issue to you, so don't write off the way you feel.

Jess has a nice idea, maybe talk to you Mum and say that you would like to set aside a day in the week or month, to do something with her,

Just let her know that it would mean a lot to you if she would do this with you. You don't need to mention the time she hasn't spent with you, just put it positively. Tell her now that your older and your lives are both busier, you would just like to have some special Mum/Daughter time.

[Milliner]

to you. I think that you need to sit down and have a chat to your mum about your feelings. As bertandernie said she is probably totally unaware of you feelings. It often helps if you can talk to people about what is hurting you.
I hope that it all works out for you.

[damien's mum]

I think talking and telling her how you feel might just help... Hope something works out soon for you

[Tabbyguizmo]

i agree with an activity u don't have to say why u want more time. show ur mum what she might not know that's she's missing. if u both miss out on each other now u'll never have a close bond, when u oneday become a mum u can be like the mums u wanted her to be. tell her u want to be with her more and do things together but might be unsure of how to go about it. talk to her, goodluck.

[our little treasures]

Oh I think you have valid reasons to feel the way you feel. I would tell her how you feel but be prepared for her to get upset because most people would get on the defence. Your mum will soon overcome this. Maybe you don't feel comfortable because of your age, this is normal. If you don't want to talk to her know remember you have bh and when your older maybe chat with mum!

[studyingECS]

thank you all for your advise i think i am going to try and have some time with my mum and say that we should do something and i am going to give her a couple of chances and then if we never get to i am just going to let it out casue some times she says she is going to do something with me and doesnt but we will see what happens