----WiErd FeelinGs----

**kristi001** · 01-01-2007 18:01

Ok about 3 weeks ago now i had a complete mascarriage..

i was only in the very early stages.. I didnt even know i was pregnant so it came as a Shock..

The thing is i just dont know what to feel.. I dont know if i should feel like i have lost a baby or if its nothing..If i should just get over it. I am just numb... Its all i think about!!!

I cry about it.. but just to myself.. Not even DP knows about it. I feel stupid talking about it.. Like its nothing.. I should just get over it..
But i cant...

OK So are these feelings normal??
What ShOuLd i be feeling??
Should i just get over it??

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

**Kizmet** · 01-01-2007 18:27

Hun whatever you are feeling is normal! No one can tell you how to feel about what has happened! Please jus tknow I am always here for you!

**KaM** · 01-01-2007 21:58

as always hunny. Like Kate says . .there is no right way to feel. Feelings are feelings and are there for a reason. And you dont just get over it. It was a still a part of you and your life. It is a loss. You just wake up every morning and hug that little gorgeous boy of yours. And over time it may become easier for you.

We are all here babes! Hugs and everything. .lots of chocolate or ice cream . .or just a good old chat!

Love ya girleh!

**shed** · 01-01-2007 22:06

I think it would completely normal to have these feelings, especially when you already have a baby because you can sort of see what might have been, if you know what I mean.

I haven't been through this so I can't really imagine how you feel, but I want you to know that I think you're lovely and I am sorry this happened to you.

And by the way, please get your *** back in the August thread, we all miss you!

Your feelings, whatever they are and for whatever reason are VALID

**reAllytee** · 01-01-2007 22:19

Originally Posted by shed

Your feelings, whatever they are and for whatever reason are VALID

That sums it up perfectly !

Let yourself feel hun its going to hurt but it will be better to feel it than ignore it.

Lotsa

**♥Heaven Sent♥** · 02-01-2007 00:52

Hi Kristi,
I was in the same position you are in a couple of weeks ago,i was just starting to think about how much i would like another baby,i thought i may have been pregnant,but the tests kept coming back neg,anyway i found out that i had a complete m/c i would have been 7 weeks when it happend,like you i really didnt know how or what to feel,i felt like it was my fault because i wished i was pregnant but at the same time i didnt and then i got what i wanted didnt I.I know now that its not my fault and that its unfortunately something that DOES happen.When i first found out,i was numb i didnt really feel much and then all of a sudden it hit me,i burst into tears in df's arms,it really healped me to talk to df and he DID understand more than i thought he did,he too was upset it affected him more than i thought it would,BUT we worked through it together,EVERYTHING that you are feeling is TOTALLY normal and i am very sorry for your loss,just take it slowly one day at a time and deal with it whenever you are ready,and however that may be *HUGS* *HUGS* *HUGS*

**Lollie** · 02-01-2007 02:01

Hi there, sorry for your loss.

I had a non viable pregnancy (or blighted ovums I think they're called) in September 2006, didnt even know I was pregnant. Dr wanted me to go for a scan to try and determine why I was bleeding clots a few months post birth and found out I was pregnant with twins again. There were no HB's detected and a little bit before a week in between scans and still no HB's. Had to have a D&C. I grieved for a week, but now I don't feel any connection to that pregnancy and to be honest I'm not upset that I miscarried. However with my first pregnancy (7 years ago) I miscarried triplets and even now it STILL hurts to talk about it. We're all different and each situation affects us differently.

Make sure you take the time out to grieve your angel, take care of yourself, listen to your body and allow yourself to express what you feel. I also advise you to tell your boyfriend as keeping it secret can make it hurt even more.

Good luck

**katelynsmum** · 02-01-2007 19:19

I suffered a miscarriage 5 days b4 xmas.I was only bout 5wks along but have taken it very hard.Eventhough it wasnt a planned pregnancy,knowing there was something growing inside of me is a loss.I was in alot of pain n bleeding that i was hospitalised for 4 days.Now i dont know if i will b able to have anymore children or not.Atleast we have one child.Our daughter is 13mths old and she is an angel.Since the miscarriage i know im not my usual happy self n get teary when i see other pregnant women,thinking that should b me.Have other women felt like this too,and also how am i suppose to know when to expect my next period as i have no idea.I just want ur opinion because i have fallen pregnant on the pill twice now,n my husband doesnt think theres any point me going back on it.I hate the pill as it makes me bloat alot but im not ready to fall pregnant again just yet.What do you think i should do.