A bit of background on me first - I'm a 19 year old Mama-to-be due in April next year. I'm in a loving relationship with my husband who is 23 (almost 24) and I'm working part-time til mid-March when I'm stopping to be a SAHM and I am also studying externally. Our baby is going to be the first Grandchild & Great-Grandchild on both sides of the family.
I have been copping quite a lot of judgment lately from family (mainly my Dad's side who don't approve and think it's all happened too quickly and is really rushed)regarding my age, parenting ability and pregnancy and I was wondering how everyone else deals with this sort of thing from strangers and people they know.
Some of the comments I have had are:
"You're so young to be having a baby! How do you feel about it all?" - to which I say, what do you think, I'm bloomin' excited and can't wait to meet her!
"How do your parents feel about being such young grandparents?" - to which I say, well my Mum is almost 60 and my Dad's in his mid-fifties, I don't think it's that young! Why don't you ask them instead of me?
"Oh my Goodness you're both (my husband and me) going to be studying (me externally him part-time) when the baby comes.. how are you going to cope?" - to which I say, as best we can!
"You're so big/small" usually followed by an uninvited rub of my stomach - this one I don't know how to deal with, I don't have a quick response for it and I can't stand strangers touching my belly but I don't know what to say to them other than swipe their hand off or just grin and bear it.
"I'd be so scared if I were you. Having a baby is such a big deal" - I almost fieel like saying no really??? I hadn't realized. But I don't really have a good response.
I hate the fact that although me and my husband are over the moon regarding this pregnancy, others still feel the need to give their opinion when it isn't asked and consequently I feel judged and ashamed for it even sometimes.
So do you get comments like these? How do you deal with them? What smart comebacks do you have and use, that shut people up?
All help/advice/input appreciated, thanks for taking the time to read this.