so scared

**melfunction** · 17-12-2006 15:08

Honesty is always the best policy.

Sure, sh!t might hit the fan for awhile, but at least you'll have a clear conscience.

**FourAngelKisses** · 17-12-2006 15:09

Originally Posted by jess_live_die

i say do wat u feel is right in ur heart boyfriends come and go but child stay for life.

I agree!

**motherlylove** · 17-12-2006 21:41

Don't let this guy intimidate you you have lots of options but first i would do a test go to the doctors and go from there. As for options there is refuges emergancy housing /accomodation. Pregnancy support line listed in your local phone book. Good luck let us know how you go and if you need to chat feel free to pm me

***munchkin*** · 17-12-2006 21:49

Originally Posted by jess_live_die

i say do wat u feel is right in ur heart boyfriends come and go but child stay for life.

I second that.

for you. You should do what is right for you (and potentially yourbaby). Not what this intimidating guy is trying to make you do, and not what you think you should do to save your relationship. Make sure you put yourself first, whatever you do.

**SamanthaJane** · 17-12-2006 21:56

Originally Posted by melephant

Honesty is always the best policy.

Sure, sh!t might hit the fan for awhile, but at least you'll have a clear conscience.

I agree. You wouldnt want the truth coming out later on....

Good luck with whatever you choose to do and keep us informed because we are all here for you

**the_queen** · 17-12-2006 22:00

Sounds like a brand new life is about to start for you

If I was in your shoes, I'd break up with the boyfriend, take my daughter and start a new life. Don't tell him that you're pregnant. Try to sever all ties with this psycho other guy. Tell him you had a termination, then don't ever see him again. I would absolutely consider moving to a new city and starting all over again.

Don't stress about losing your little girl - it's highly unlikely.

And have some more of these

**Sazeby** · 17-12-2006 22:11

Do you know for sure if you're actually pregnant?

You may be worrying too much darl..

**mumneedshelp** · 17-12-2006 22:46

Originally Posted by ♥Sazeby♥

Do you know for sure if you're actually pregnant?

You may be worrying too much darl..

not for sure yet but Im a major stresser. just trying to get my head around the possibility.

**MrsMiggins** · 18-12-2006 09:37

How soon until you can test?

Obviously I have very little idea of exactly what's going on in your life right now, only what I've read in your posts, but you do sound confused, frightened & upset. FWIW I honestly think that any guy who could say things like that to you and threaten you in that way is not at all worth being in a relationship with & not someone you would want to have as an influence in your childrens lives anyway.

I strongly suggest that you get a PG test ASAP and also seek relationship/pregnancy counselling either way. If you are PG, it is vital that you do what's right for you and that you are able to make a decision that you are happy with as early on in the PG as you can.

If you want to keep this baby, please consider how your life will be if you decide to terminate based on only your fear of this man. Please, please understand that I am not at all against termination. I just know that you are confused & need help. If you decide to terminate this PG, do it only because it is the right decision for you & not because you feel intimidated by this person, or through guilt.

There are many avenues available to help women in your situation. Have a look in your local phone book, call Lifeline, speak to your GP - there are so many places that can help you confidentially.

And feel free to PM me any time. I know it can help just to have someone to listen who will be a shoulder to cry on or give you support without judging.

**MissSparkle** · 29-12-2006 15:48

Originally Posted by the_queen

Sounds like a brand new life is about to start for you

If I was in your shoes, I'd break up with the boyfriend, take my daughter and start a new life. Don't tell him that you're pregnant. Try to sever all ties with this psycho other guy. Tell him you had a termination, then don't ever see him again. I would absolutely consider moving to a new city and starting all over again.

Don't stress about losing your little girl - it's highly unlikely.

And have some more of these

I agree!! I "had" a friend who got preg to this guy and he told her she HAD to have an abortion. She didnt want to, he threatened her so she told him she would have one. They parted and she had a baby. Baby was about 10months and ex bf sees her with baby, knows it'd his and wants to play "daddy" for a few weeks before disappearing again.

If u are preg, I agree u just break up with ur bf and move away. Thats what Id do.