so scared

**mumneedshelp** · 17-12-2006 12:58

I think I might be pregnant and not to my boyfriend.

it was a very silly mistake.

now I am worried as the guy has told me to terminate no questions asked but I dont think I can.

this will split my boyfriend and I up and he will possibly want custody of our lil girl.

one of the guys friend has said he may try to take it off me to spite me even though he doesnt want it. I was also told he will come after me the words were something like 'he will come after your kneecaps your house your kids and everything you have to F##K you over'

'he will play head games with you'

I have noone I can talk to at all. I am really scared if I choose to keep it(if I am) he will come after me.

I am also scared of losing my daughter but not as much as I fear he will hunt me down for not terminating.

do I tell him if I am pregnant and am keeping it?
I really dont think I can terminate

but at the same time I could lose so much.

where can I go to get help? I will have to leave town so he cant find me. I have no money and no car. No family and no friends. noone I can trust. I am so so scared.

thank you for listening

**~rambox~** · 17-12-2006 13:04

Ok firsty Are you sure it is not possible to be your boyfriends??

Does he know about the other guy??

If I was you i would tell the police that this person has threatened you so that it is atleast on report if something does happen.

that it doesnt.

As for terminating it is totally your decission and NOONE including him can tell you what to do.

I have had a termination when i was 17 as i feared for my self and the baby cause of the person it was with. I still believe that i made the right decision.

Good luck

**kiah** · 17-12-2006 13:12

I know this might sound bad but can u pretend the baby is your boyfriends and persuade him to move somewhere else with you away from everyone. Tell him u need a change of life need to focus on your family with the new addition.

Then tell that other person that u made the mistake with that u got rid of it.

I know it sounds a bit bad but whatever decision u come to its going to b sad. Losing custody of your child would b devasting.

Just dont ever make that mistake ever again. Spend the rest of your life making yourself a better person.

**mumneedshelp** · 17-12-2006 13:15

its definately not my boyfriends

things are really strained with us anyway so no matter what I dont think we will last much longer. I couldnt live with myself if i terminated to save my relationship and then we split up anyway

**OJandMe** · 17-12-2006 13:18

I have no advice.

But I have lots of

.

You'll get through this. I agree with Relvy, you have to tell the police if he's made threats against you. And are you sure it's NOT your BF's?

**~rambox~** · 17-12-2006 13:19

Originally Posted by mumneedshelp

its definately not my boyfriends

things are really strained with us anyway so no matter what I dont think we will last much longer. I couldnt live with myself if i terminated to save my relationship and then we split up anyway

I so hope everything works out for you and good luck with your decision

**mumneedshelp** · 17-12-2006 13:19

99.99% sure its not his. as far as I can remember we have not even had sex since my last period and before that it was with a condom and very rarely.

**kiah** · 17-12-2006 13:39

If its definitely not your boyfriends and you aren't getting along u definitly shouldnt b together.

Although u may lose your daughter for a while if u want to keep this baby u may have to go away and have it in hiding for a few yrs and then reaapear later.

At least both children will still exist in the world. In order to have the happiness of keeping the little one u r pregnant with u will hav to make a sacrifice.

**kristi001** · 17-12-2006 14:06

Big

For you

Well if i were you i would just break up with the boyfriend you are with now..

Not because of the baby but because you are unhappy and its just not working.

If you go to your local womens health centre or even centerlink they can help you with housing until you get on your feet.

Tell your X that after a fling ( after you have broken up ) You have fallen pregnant and tell the other guy that you aborted.

Yes there is quite a few lies but this way hopefully you and your X will stay civilized due to you first child and the other man will not know a thing...

If you really feel this is what you want then Just go ahead and do it!! Be strong.. YOu can do it!!!

I wish you all the best and to let you know that all us bubhubbers will be here for an ear