They called it an elective caesarean but it wasn't elective. I didn't want one but had no choice because both my babies presented breech at my last appointment and on the day I was scheduled to have the surgery, I went into labour anyways. Now a lot of people say 'be grateful you can have kids' or 'at least they're healthy and alive' - that I do not dispute at all. Of course I am glad to have those things but no-one has a right to judge what they don't know.
They don't know what it's like to feel like a failure for not giving birth the way 'nature intended' and it can be a very traumatic experience, especially for those who had to go under and never got to see their babies be born. I was lucky at least I got to see the first seconds of my babies lives.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I think people should be given a fair go. A lot of people get critisised for the choice they make when it comes to giving birth. Yeah I wanted a VB but I don't look down upon mums whose first experience sign up for a c/s. Having a baby is a big thing and I commend those who have the courage and compassion to follow their hearts whether it be without drugs, c/s, all the drugs they can offer - whatever.
I spare a thought for those ladies who still haven't recovered from their C/S or VB experience and hope if there is a next time they get the wish of the birth they want and its a good experience.
Me on the other hand - I am pregnant with my last child. I have been blessed enough to experience both births and even being a big fanatic of VB for myself, am thinking I may have to sign up for another elective. It's a big decision I have to make and I hope no-one judges me for what I end up choosing.
Just my 2 cents