Just curious as I was reading this old piece by some female philosopher saying women are basically wasting their lives if they give up work when they have kids. Apparently there was a huge backlash from sahm's. I've not read that as ms2 has taken the computer! But she goes on to address the criticism of her judgment by saying that all this staying home business might be based around old religious ideologies. That women should be at home looking after kids and house. Thing is nothing is mentioned about wanting to be the one to care for your own children. It seems to be more aimed at the idea that some women are choosing "low status" (her words) Childcare / housework over more substantial paid employment.
I never thought I'd be a sahm. I probably would've gone back a couple of days a week when dd1 was about 1.5 if we hadn't moved countries. I wouldn't have worked full time though. But even 2 days a week I would've found hard to leave my baby with strangers. If I'd had a grandparent or dp could've worked part time I would've loved to combine working and motherhood and once my kids got to about 2 I would've left them in a quality daycare.
Not sure if this makes sense? I am just surprised when I read these kinds of pieces that the motivation to stay home with kids seems so different to mine. I absolutely never wanted to be a homemaker. That end of things I really struggle with. But being a full time mum in the first 2-3 years especially has been far harder but far more fulfilling than any job or even study I've done.