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    My 15 month old girl is starting daycare in a month and it is completely breaking my heart. They called me just over half an hour ago that she has been accepted, I cannot stop crying since then.
    We have to put her there because I have to go back to work soon as we are running low on finances now.
    I am so shattered, i do not know how i will handle this separation.
    She is so different, she looks for me even when I am just downstairs, she wants me all the time. Will it hurt her? Will she be broken hearted as I am too. Will she become quiet and withdrawn. I am so scared for her, for me. My DH is also so sad about this. We do not know how we will handle this, the three of us.
    I need your reassurances.

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    My DD (just turned 1) is very similar by the sounds - always wants me and always looking for me, even if I'm in the same room! To be honest I think it's pretty normal behaviour. She started daycare about six weeks ago and goes twice a week (will be three days next year).

    It hasn't been an easy transition for her. She cries every time I drop her off and when I pick her up. But talking to the daycare girls, I know she's generally fine during the day and I know they'll call me if she won't settle and they've tried everything. They've only had to do it once, on her second day. They want her to enjoy daycare too, and not have any negative associations with it either. But it is getting better. And I know it's good for her. She's getting heaps of new experiences she wouldn't get being at home with me, getting to play with other kids and other toys etc. It definitely hasn't scarred her or changed her behaviour at home.

    I mean this in the nicest possible way, but if your DD is going to go to daycare (and it sounds like she has to as it would appear from your post that you staying home isn't an option), then you need to harden up, at least on the outside. If you are teary or clingy at drop off, it will be so much harder for your DD. Just a quick kiss and goodbye and leave the room. The educators will deal with the tears, they do it all the time! But you also might be surprised how your DD does too, she might love it! And to be honest you might end up loving it too. For me, it's so nice to have a little bit of time where I don't have to be mum and I don't have a little monkey constantly hanging off me!

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