... And I don't know how to deal with it.
It's probably been a long time coming but I suppose today coming home and having him already in bed is the catalyst? Not to mention that he cannot find any joy in our sons. He is fine with dd, but our boys (whose birthday it is today) no matter what they do it annoys him. If they're inside he sends them out. If they're outside they're not doing what he wants them to do and he will yell at them. They are confused and don't know how to be around him without upsetting him, therefore don't want to be around him.
I don't know what to say to him to convince him to get help. He just shrugs it off, and is ADAMANT that he will not take medication for mental health. He says all of his family take it and it doesn't work for them (somewhat true but I would believe they don't take it regularly enough or do all the other associated things).
It's so upsetting to see him like this, not to mention exhausting because I work full time and then parent full time too.
Advice at this point would be wonderful because I'm in tears just writing about it..