Since dd2 (1 year) has become mobile it's made things so difficult.
She is interested in what dd1 (3.5 years) is playing with. Dd1 really struggles with playing independently and likes interaction from me.
There is little or no activities that they can do together to keep them both happy.
Dd1 is always getting upset and pushing away dd2, and fair enough, she'll be playing with a dolls house and dd2 will just pull it apart, dd1 tries to give dd2 something else but obviously what we are doing together looks more fun! It's also not fair to expect dd2 to be sitting alone seperate in another room when dd1 and I are in the lounge together.
It's got to the point dd1 won't even play with any toys any more as dd2 comes along and interferes. She just gets upset (and I get frustrated as she's hurting dd2) and goes into her room and shuts the door and wants to plays on her tablet all day. (She won't play on her own with her toys in her room). I would suggest dd1 go find her own space elsewhere but she just won't without me there.
I feel like a piggy in the middle. I'm at a loss what to do with both of them, and the guilt I feel about dd1 is killing me.
I do give dd1 lots of attention when dd2 is napping. But it's not enough.
Dd2 will happily play on her own but if I'm sitting and playing with dd1, or she's having fun with some toys, she just wants to be involved. And dd1 doesn't want her too, she's too young and destructive.
What do others do at this age? Hope I'm making sense.