This is a rant/needing advice because I can't deal anymore..
I have a 4 year old little girl. Was once so respectful and helpful and nice. Seemed she never had a bad bone in her body. Now she's the complete opposite.
She is so so disrespectful, ungrateful and nasty... it hurts my feelings so bad when she says stuff it makes my insides go weak. I can't even stand up for myself that's how much it shocks me, but then she thinks she's won. I can't be nasty to her. I do things to discipline her and I feel guilty straight away and most the time have to just leave it at whatever I've said and walk away before I cry of guilt.
She won't clean her room, she has a galaxy tab A and she takes pictures of the house we live in and says it's messy and she's going to show people (it's not messy, I'm borderline OCD, the only room that's messy is the room she messes up on a daily basis and not just toys, she rips all her clothes out, all her books out, takes her hangers out of her cupboards, her stepdad builds Lego with her as a bonding kind of activity and she smashes all that up, she has paper everywhere, piles of junk mail & she loses it if I try To bin any of it.), she cut her own hair the other day and tried to hide it from me but she also cut her favourite teddies fur and the hair off of her my little pony doll (to which I have confiscated ALL her toys until she has respect for them) which she lost it over that too and said she doesn't want to live here because I'm nasty and she doesn't get to tell me what to do so why should I tell her what to do, she tells my partner to not go to my room with me, he finishes work and we go to the room and sit on the bed and talk about his day- I personally believe it's important for us to have that talk each day as he knows I care about him and i am interested in him and his life and I still support him even though in 10 minutes we won't spend time together again until we all sit at the dinner table. Today my daughter was riding her my little pony scooter and she walked up to me and said why didn't santa bring me what I asked for I hate this scooter it's disgusting and I don't like it he should have bought me a better one. That ripped my heart out I pay lay-bys for months to buy things for her that I think she will enjoy and that she says she wants and then boom she hates it thanks for that. She also said she hates our house because it has 2 bathrooms and she'd much prefer a house with 1 bathroom- just like nannies. She doesn't realise how lucky she is to have her own bathroom, a $400 tablet, brand new bedroom furniture, toys that no one else has used. Everything she has, has only being hers from day one. I had a completely different upbringing and wanted my child/ren to have a different life to what I had.
The things I've been doing for discipline are as follows;
1. Stern warning.
2. Timeout for 4 mins.
3. A smack.
4. Sit in your room for 8 mins.
5. Take away an item that she cherishes usually her galaxy tab.
It's so hard to deal with all this my family have stopped speaking to me, and it's stressful because I have no one who I can ask to just watch her for 2 hours while I get on top of the laundry or vacuum the floors. I have had a breakdown where we just got dominoes for dinner and we were walking out the shop I had her in my arms because she had no shoes on, I was holding the coke bottle and she tried to yank it from my hands I held on and stepped down a gutter and she yanked again I lost balance and fell a*s over tit in public with her in my hands all cause she was trying to boss me about and take the coke off of me. I lost it in the car cried my eyes out because I was embarrassed and ashamed that my child just treats me like crap no matter where we are! She constantly tells me off. Someone please help. I need her to respect me again