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    Inspired by current events, share your assault.

    Mine, had a night out with a good friend, only had a couple drinks, went to sleep at hers, woke up to find her boyfriends friend groping me... Luckily I wasn't drunk or who knows. I kicked him really hard. My DH still doesn't know (married at the time).

    As a mother of a man to be, my pledge is to help create a man of integrity and honour.

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    I have been felt up by a creep (I was 16) at a party when I was very drunk and laying down for a rest. This was done publicly in front of many others. I got up immediately and burst into tears.

    Another occasion I was at a bar, but I was sober. A mate's very drunk brother came up and grabbed me a few times. Then he groped my chest from behind and I burst into tears. He got escorted out for his behaviour, but was let back in a few minutes later because he was a well known local rugby player. Never mind that he was blind drunk huh? This guy actually apologised to me over the phone a few days later. He said he was ashamed and that he didn't even remember behaving like that. Pretty scary.

    Back in the days where I attended concerts and spent time in mosh pits, it was sadly pretty common as a young woman to get grabbed inappropriately. I always made a point of reacting and showing my disgust.

    I hate how common it is that women are treated like this. I'm very lucky nothing worse has happened to me.

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    A boyfriend. I was 23. I didn't want to do xxy He did want to do xyz. We did xyz. At the time I thought it was me giving in to keep the peace. I now realise it was sexual assault.

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    I was groped consistently by a small group of boys during high school. I did not say anything as nobody cared.

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    Changed my mind...
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    About 8 years ago in a nightclub a guy did a Donald Trump special - put his hand up my dress and grabbed my v.agina. So disgusting. I told security and he was removed. What kind of person thinks this stuff is ok? It's so sad to read so many women have been assaulted like this
    ETA also when I was 15 a school teacher (not my teacher) kissed me and asked me to come to his house on New Year's Eve so gross.

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    I regret starting this thread, it has made me feel so very sad and upset. Not due to lack of responses (I completely understand how difficult it can be to put these events in to words). It's not right that this is a reality for women, I hope a movement is starting and hopefully women feel more empowered and know they matter.

    Much love to all x

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    Between the ages of 7-10 my cousin (a year older) would rub his naked self on me, kiss me, touch me etc. My parents knew, did nothing. He tried to kiss me at a wedding and when I screamed I got in trouble and should have "let him do it instead of ruining the wedding".

    When I was 14 (a virgin), my karate senseis mates rocked up at my house (karate sensei gave them my address) and basically blackmailed me into their car through threats of harming my parents etc and I was naive enough to believe them. There were 4 of them and also phallic objects. My body was well and truly taken from me.

    When I was 15, I ducked into the servo next to the Maccas I worked at to grab something to drink for my walk home (I finished at 11pm so had to walk home on my own). The servo guy grabbed me and tried to drag me behind the counter, already had pants unzipped. I managed to get away.

    When I was 7 months pregnant, an ex was stalking me (he hated my now husband). I heard a noise outside, opened the door. He burst in and sexually assaulted me. Tried to report it to Police, nothing was done. Found out years later I happened to report it to the one damn officer who was mates with my ex. We both worked for the same public service sector and about 2 years later, they moved him to my office. I kicked up a stink and they didn't do anything. I completely flipped my ****. I was pregnant with my second at the time and started bleeding heavily. Doctors said it was the stress of having him walk past my desk and sit across from him staring at me every day while my work did nothing, and my body just gave out. (Pregnancy continued okay after that). Work let me go off on paid leave for the rest of my pregnancy after that.

    I've had lesser stuff happen but these are the most prominent ones in my memory.

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    I just wanted to post the sexual assault, domestic and family violence counselling service number: 1800RESPECT/ 1800 737 732

    It's astounding that 1 in 6 (or in 5, if partners are counted) women are victims. That number would, no doubt, be much higher if every incident was reported.
    It's the single most thing that scares me about having daughters. I want them to know that they ALWAYS own their own bodies and to speak up, but it's so hard when this culture is still so prevalent, as well as the lack of reports that have a successful outcome for the victim.

    I just wanted to send every one of you massive hugs, whether you've posted your story, or you're reading along quietly.

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