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    Default WWYD - DS's Birthday

    I'm just after suggestions on what you would do in similar circumstances, because I'm not sure of the best way to approach this!

    It's DS's second birthday in a few weeks. His cousin has a birthday 2 days before him. DS and I are going to fly down to see our families a week before his birthday so we can go to his cousin's party as well. DH will join us the day before DS's birthday. This will be the last opportunity we have to go down and visit without the Dr signing off to say I am fit to fly in 3rd trimester... and quite frankly the idea of flying down (2 flights usually with at least a 2 hour wait between) after that point with my highly active son is distinctly unappealing. We also have my BIL's coming up just before we go down (a week each, with a week in between). So we can't change the dates.

    Regarding presents for DS would you:
    - Not take any from yourself knowing that he's likely to get presents from everyone down there (and possibly even taking Christmas presents back) and will need to cater for this in luggage allowance.
    - Take a few smaller presents given the above.
    - Take all the presents (except maybe the bike) and hope that you can manage to bring them back without too many difficulties.

    If no/few presents, when would you give the rest?

    Celebrations:
    We're planning on afternoon tea at the park with grandparents, uncles/aunts and cousins. He's got a few little friends up here though, should we have a little afternoon tea and play session with his friends the weekend after we get back, too?

    Given we're likely to be staying with family, and the party will be on his actual birthday, how would you guarantee that you get some quiet inmediate family time to celebrate?

    Sorry for the long post. My anxiety is flaring up (so much happening between now and when bub arrives), and I'm struggling to keep perspective.

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    If I were you I'd probably take one small gift from you for you DS, I wouldn't take lots of gifts or big ones as it'd be a PITA to bring home.

    Definitely do something small when you get home so you can give him the rest of his gifts then.

    In order to get some alone time could you and DH take DS out to breakfast. Maybe something special like pancakes.

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    Thanks @Mama Mirabelle. I was thinking along the same sort of lines. But, anxiety likes to keep picking and outlining flaws. I was planning on taking some clothes, and a toy as gifts.
    Do you think people will get upset if we take him out by ourselves? Or are most people generally understanding? Last year we stayed at a hotel for his birthday morning. But we didn't have to pay for the flights last time.

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    I totally understand, I have anxiety too and it makes me overthink and stress about things.

    I don't see why anyone should get upset, you're having afternoon tea with them, it's not unreasonable to want a bit of alone time with just your DH and DS, especially if this is his last birthday as your only child, surely people would understand.

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    Give your family a heads up now that you are planning on taking DS out for a breaky with just you guys on his birthday to spend some time together so you can then happily celebrate & enjoy everyones company for the rest of the day - seems perfectly reasonable.

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    I would just bring one small present from you and have a special breakfast for the two of you. Maybe also pack a packet of balloons so he can wake up to some balloons in the morning?

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    I would pack a couple of small toys (Barbie doll, small cars) and do the balloons in his room thing. I wouldn't go on a special breakfast just with DH and DS when I was away visiting people - you've travelled, I wouldn't pack my time with things I could do at home.

    I wouldn't have a part back home either. What a pain in the ****. One even for a 2 year old is enough.

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