As I said in the introduction thread, my name is Jack, I'm 23. I have custody of my brother who has just turned 2, he has been in my care since July due to my parents incapacity to safely care for him.
I'm struggling a bit, we both are. It's a huge change for the both of us. I want to set routines etc early so that they stick but I also don't want to come down too hard - he has been through a lot and what most 2 year olds find difficult - he is likely to struggle even more especially during this wobbly adjustment period.
At the moment, we're finding a few aspects of our new life difficult and I'm wondering if any parents out there have any suggestions....
- Bedtime: He was sleeping in a bed before I had him so I've done the same because we don't want to backwards. I've tried to set a nice little routine, bath, a bit of play, book, then numerous night lights go on. He usually settles ok, sometimes struggles, but then he will wake up in the middle of the night - usually between midnight and 2am and scream, bang on the wall etc.
- Playtime with other children: We recently attended playgroup a couple of knees, Arlo bit other children and pulled hair, when told off for this (multiple times) he would stomp his feet and screech, I tried a few different options but ended up leaving and on the way he continued this behaviour and I was the target
- Regular tantrums in public (probably a regular 2 year old thing but still diffcult). He will stomp his feet and say no when out in public, the only way to get around this issue is to pick him up which results in an absolute screaming fest.
Sorry I went on and on... to put it short, I'm looking for ANY sort of advice or help re: routines, being too soft/being too harsh, bedtime, social interactions, tantrums and anything else you've got!!