I could choose my day off so made sure it was playgroup day. That way I could still have a day where I really felt like I was doing the mum thing well and could keep mixing with my mummy friends too.
I never felt daycare guilt with DD but I do now I have DS as he just doesn't have her communication skills or the ability to wrap the carers around his little finger like she did. So it really depends on a few factors.
As for DH, I worked full time last year and he finally started doing a tiny bit more around the house. Now I'm 3 days we're back to him doing the bins, lawns and maybe the odd bath. He's bloody lucky he gives a good massage or he'd be in permanent strife!