I 100% see where you are coming from (even though it doesn't match my own philosophy) and appreciate that a lot of people do not understand the concept of intentionally not getting kids used to the limits and confines of "normal" life.
For me, I don't see any drama in my kids going to daycare or school as I know that the impact I have (and have had from day 1) will far outweigh some time spent at daycare where everything hasn't been exactly as I would like it.
I just need to grow some thicker skin methinks 😆
harvs. We probably could survive just on hubby's income and would be doing really well if I only worked 3 days per week. But I love my career and to progress in my current company (which I also love) I needed to work full-time. And that progression is really meaningful to me. It's not so much about the money to me. My sister and manager are the only people IRL who get that because they're both mums who choose to work full time. Anyone else looks at me like I have 3 heads when I try to explain it to them.
This is a really interesting thread. I think it's a valid point that if you are interested in early childhood development you can provide a equal/better educational experience however. .. If your not really in the know or have an interest in teaching young minds i think quality childcare can be beneficial. Someone very close to me is a very loving parent but has no clue. A walk to the park sounds like this: hurry up, I'm not waiting for you, stop touching everything and get a move on NOW!
Someone who wants to teach doesn't sound like this right? So the child's experience is very different.
Also, i have seen the term institutionalized thrown around. The word itself by definition is negative but i think what is meant is more like 'use to routine and rules'. I'm a parent who wants my kids to behave by rules. I'm fine with school telling them when to eat, play or learn. I actually find comfort and reward in routines myself and i loved school so I'm placing my beliefs and past experiences onto my kids. My logic isn't really any different from someone who had a traumatic experience choosing to homeschool/unschool.
Last edited by Candiceo; 10-10-2016 at 12:50.
There are risks that keeping your kids home, and 'uninstitutionalised' do not protect from. For example, kids not being respected (eg being yelled at) can happen in the home. Infact, I would say that risk is greater in the home than an 'institution.'
Another example of risk in the home that wasn't on your list: a child is 33 times more likely to suffer abuse if a biological mother cohabitats with a man who is not the child's biological father. http://www.drphil.com/advice/parenti...ng-statistics/
- not always and of course there are some awesome step dads out there. I suppose what I'm saying is that our responsibilities in caring for out kids go way beyond the perceived risks in them being institutionalised - the game plan needs to be bigger than that.
I'm choosing to work full time. We could manage without any salary from me or from DH. We wouldn't have to move or change much of our lifestyle.
But neither of us want to entertain the idea. We'd do 4 days a week maybe, but parent at home : hell no.
Do we feel any guilt at all? Not one bit.
I'm actually super incredibly proud of the example I'm setting for my children and the life I offer them.
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