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    Quote Originally Posted by gingermillie View Post
    They are truly toddler whisperers. They can get 12 toddlers quietly sitting around a table waiting for their snack and then they calmly eat their snacks out of a bowl without chucking the bowl on the ground. I'm deadly serious. I'd pay just for that aspect! .
    LOL! Yep, how *do* they do that? I'd pay good money to find out! ☺

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    Default How do you feel about Childcare / early learning?

    Quote Originally Posted by Freyamum View Post
    There's so much stuff these days about the importance of preschool / early education for children's best chances at life... Or rather school. From all I've read I think this is baloney and actually Childcare is really only important for disadvantaged children - what kids need is love and attention and if you have a loving parent that reads and talks to their child, responds to their needs and provides opportunities for socialisation with other kids early learning isn't NECESSARY.
    That's not to say I think Childcare is bad or that quality early learning facilities have no benefit. I just don't believe kids are better off in Childcare than being cared for by a loving relative.
    But part of me wants to believe that my kids need Childcare because I need a break from them! My 2 older kids did 2 short days a week from about age 2 and my now 7 yo flourished when he attended preschool. My 2 year old will hopefully go 2 days a week from next year. We have no family in the county and I feel really quite isolated at times. I didn't plan on being sahm but we moved here from uk when my eldest was nearly 2 and I couldn't find work in my field and then any job I thought I might be able to do would've involved kids in long days for no real financial gain taking into account travel costs and Childcare.
    Anyways I'm thinking of upping ms2's hours at care from 5-10. There is so much to do in the house with 3, she doesn't nap and they aren't all in bed until 9 so I find it really hard to find time for me to research my study options and having a bit more time just playing with other kids might be good for her? But for some reason I am balking at doing this. I feel like I'd be wasting our money and bad about myself that it means I'm not coping when I should be able to.
    I guess this long winded post is just curiosity as to other people's attitude to Childcare.
    Sometimes childcare might not be necessary for the child but is necessary for the parents, either because they are working (obviously then it is necessary) or because the mother (or father in my case, as he's the SAHD) need a break. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Think of it as a mental health plan. I know some awesome parents who stay home with their kids 7 days a week and are able to organise amazing activities for them and get out with them every day etc, it also helps if there are siblings. But that's not for everyone.

    From my personal experience, when my boys started childcare (both started at 2yrs & 3 months), I saw an immediate improvement in their social & communication skills. Maybe a lot of it had to do with their ages, but they started engaging with the world around them on a completely different level.

    Childcare is really only important for disadvantaged children - what kids need is love and attention and if you have a loving parent that reads and talks to their child, responds to their needs and provides opportunities for socialisation with other kids early learning isn't NECESSARY.
    I so strongly disagree with this statement and I find it bordering on offensive. I don't like to think that we don't do "enough" with them at home, and are bad or lazy parents, and our kids certainly aren't disadvantaged. We do plenty of fun things with them: lots of reading, lots of craft and building things, playing imaginative games, talking A LOT about things and answering questions, singing, dancing, writing, going to parks and museums and holidays/travelling, but by the end of the day, childcare provides opportunities for experiences that we just can't give them at home. Like visiting a fire station, or watching chickens hatch, or learning to engage with certain children who have different personalities and interests to you, on a regular basis.

    There's also the fact that they can't get 100% of mummy and daddy's attention all the time so they need to learn new coping skills that they just can't do at home when mum is always there to give a cuddle.

    On a social level - No matter how much effort you put into getting your kids to interact with other children outside of childcare, it's not the same as actually being in the social environment of childcare, which is the closest thing they will come to being in school.

    That's not to say that if you don't send your kids to childcare, you're doing wrong by them. But certainly there are benefits.

    ETA - my kids both go 3 days a week for 8 hours
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    My kids go Because I work 3 data a week. If I had family to babysit I wouldn't send them.

    For our family daycare is important so I can work. I'd prefer grandparent or aunt care but we don't have that option. My kids don't attend daycare when I'm at home as a SAHP or on maternity leave.

    The socialisation aspect isn't important to me as we are social people naturally and my kids are constantly mixing with other kids.

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    I would never use it again. After working in a few and having my middle children attend years ago i didn't like whst i saw/heard. I know there are probably some great centres and staff somewhere but for me its not an option. I don't want my children institutionalised (they aren't in school either ) but I understand others might not have that choice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unschooling4 View Post
    I would never use it again. After working in a few and having my middle children attend years ago i didn't like whst i saw/heard. I know there are probably some great centres and staff somewhere but for me its not an option. I don't want my children institutionalised (they aren't in school either ) but I understand others might not have that choice.
    Institututionalised?

    I'm curious. What is it that you're concerned about?

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    I think it's important.

    When I socialise with non Childcare kids I notice a gap.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JustJaq View Post
    Institututionalised?

    I'm curious. What is it that you're concerned about?
    She's worried that they might have routine or maybe get a plastic toy

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    My eldest who's 4 goes too kindy and loves it! We have 3 younger and they will all be going too when there ready it's important for there development

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unschooling4 View Post
    . I don't want my children institutionalised (they aren't in school either ) but I understand others might not have that choice.
    Maybe others do have the choice but choose a different option to you? Maybe they s place their kids in daycare/school because they believe it will give their kids the highest chance of having a healthy, happy and successful life?

    Family finances can significantly affect people's choices when it comes to kids and work. So it's sort of still a choice (people could theoretically downsize their house etc) however it's one you're tied by the balls by. Can I ask how you are able to have the choice to stay at home with your kids? From Memory your partner only works a little each week? (Apologies if I am wrong). Most people need to have a least one parent working nowdays to pay the mortgage/rent and bills. Many need 2 working.

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    Default How do you feel about Childcare / early learning?

    My little boy is 3. I went back to work 2 days a week when he turned one, then 3 days from about 1.5. He has flourished at family day care, and I've found a lovely "village" with the educator and other families. DS is an only child, and has made some lovely friends. The older children there are great role models for him. I was really worried about daycare, but it has turned out to be a real gift for us.

    The educator is a toddler whisperer, as a previous poster said!
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