I need some advise....
My 6.5 year old apparently said to her friend that she is fat. I didn't hear this my self, another mum told me. Apparently this child's mum told my friend what my daughter had said. My friend said that she would let me know, but the child's mother said not too, just to let it go. When I learnt of this, I was very disappointed and spoke to my daughter straight away about it, reminding her that saying such things can be very hurtful and make others feel very sad. I I asked her why she said this and she said that she couldn't remember saying it to her friend. In her defense, I was only made aware of this a week after it apparently happened, so it could be quite legitimate that she cant remember? Who knows? It's now been 2 months and her friend's mum has been ignoring me and very stand offish to my daughter.
wwyd in this situation?
Would you bring it up with the other mother? I don't really know her that well
or just let it go?
Of late, I have noticed that my daughter has been finding it hard to find her pace in her peer group. She seems to lack confidence and gets upset easily when her friends go off together to play. How can I help her to be confident and feel secure in herself to just join in and contribute? What skills can I teach her to accomplish this?
Particularity in group situations, I have noticed that her friends seem to get annoyed by her easily. I don't know why, I just hear them tell her off or speak to her in a frustrated kinda way. This then further diminishes her self confidence and she then retracts back into herself or further annoy's them. I suspect that she is trying to fit in and be noticed, but going about it the wrong way. I have spoken to her teacher about her friendship's at school and she told me that she gets along well with everyone. I can see that she is really struggling to find her place in her group of friends and it's breaking my heart to see it. I want to nip this in the bub now, so she grow's into a happy, confident and secure young woman.
Can anyone suggest some good advise they have gotten previously? or what I can do to help her. Has anyone got any book suggestions that I could read that may help?
Thanks for listening