This topic has been on my mind for some time now, but the current thread on Bec Judd has brought it to the fore for me again.
Are women allowed to critique each other and still be feminist? If so, under what conditions? Does the physical appearance of the one being discussed change the above question?
Is it essentially counter-productive to the 'cause' to expect women should get immunity from intelligent, measured discourse simply bc those discussing them are also women? Now I'm not talking about hurling abuse or threats. I'm talking as I said ^^, fair criticism and discussion.
I've just seen a pattern overall lately, on social media, on this forum, where any level of discourse, particularly of what is considered socially attractive, particularly thin women is met with this blanket of proverbial suffocation. Words like catty, b*tchy, jealous, you must be fat are readily dished out, while the canonisation of these beautiful women follows.
A perfect example is Angelina Jolie. I've never liked her. I've always found her acting very overrated, and I've always got this strong vibe that she is quite fake. I never really bought the whole Mother Theresa thing with her, and many others didn't. But on social media, news articles, anyone that expressed reservations about her were ripped to shreds (like concerns that Pax's mother was alive at the time of his adoption and reportedly only did so bc she couldn't afford to keep him, and Angelina could have helped his life so much more by giving his mother and/or village money and resources). Women critiquing Angelina were told they were just jealous of such an amazing woman. That they were haters. Fast forward to the messy divorce which she has imo, shown her true colours. Could it be her 'vilifiers' actually were on the mark?
Another example is here on the forum on a Gabi Grecko thread. This woman obviously goes to great lengths for attention. During her fiasco several members suggested she had faked the pg and the miscarriage for attention as she clearly had mental health issues. People were quite scathing, saying others were jealous, being mean and nasty for talking about her..... then in the next breath denigrating Edleston saying he was creepy, taking advantage of her. Both of them later separately confirmed she faked the pg and miscarriage for attention.
Is there a Sisterhood rule where many women think any criticism of members of our own sex is off limits? Should there be? Why do we seem to come to the aid of 'attractive' women by believing jealousy is always the source? Does that not in fact reinforce the antithesis of the Sisterhood? To automatically assume any criticism of our own gender only stems from personal competitiveness and low self esteem? Why are we happy to have frank conversations about men but not women?
There are a lot of questions there lol This thread is intended to be for genuine discussion and reflection so please ladies let's not get catty (jokes )