I've done quite an about face in recent times with my approach to my appearance. I made the decision to put in as much effort as the majority of men do. I was so bound up in the idea that to be seen as professional I must wear makeup. Why???? So I made the (what felt to me like) brave decision to stop wearing makeup to work. I was teaching 12 year olds at the time, telling them to remove their makeup as it wasn't allowed and that "they didn't need it to look beautiful anyhow", yet there was I with my mascara on. So I decided to opt out, to step off the beauty industry train.
Don't feel sad for me. It has been such a liberating decision. I actually now feel sad for all the women spending 5-90 minutes a day "putting their face on" unable to save for a house deposit because they are in love with the clinique range at a gazillion bucks a pop. (Or handbags - I kid you not I have a DINKS friend who could be a property tycoon if she'd invested all the money she has spent on handbags).
I feel sad that women say "I wear makeup for me, because it makes me feel good" but don't analyse the layering of social conditioning that has led her to feel good by altering her facial appearance. The time and money diverted away from more meaningful pursuits - it genuinely handicaps us. And we don't even realise it.
That is pretty much irrelevant though when looking at society in its current form. I'm not saying this is about men having a secret plot to hold women back through new covert strategies such as makeup. In fact it is more a case of women now being their own worst enemy when it comes to gender equality on some fronts.
I don't feel sad though for women who choose to not strength train. That would be ridiculous. I find it an odd choice of words to say you feel sad for women who wear make up.
It makes me sad that people name call, insult, shame other women/men for having a career that is in beauty. It is the behaviour and actions that make me sad. It doesn't make me sad that they do not like the beauty industry. I do not expect everyone to. Everyone has different values and that is fine.
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