So another thread got me thinking, how do you figure out your parenting style when kids have such different personalities.
Does your style change in your household with different children, or does this lead to confusion for your kids and a bit of 'that's not fair' from each child?
I grew up in a very strict household - I think these days it has been labelled authoritarian. But I NEVER rebelled. I just always did what my parents said, if they said no, I'd have to quietly be upset and not express my opinions on the situation - also due to their discipline style - silent treatment to me = rejection, so that was enough for me not to do what I wasn't supposed to.
However, these days it seems to be a common sentiment that if you adopt this kind of parenting style your kids will rebel which is counter productive to that style - however as I just mentioned this wasn't the case with me.
Sonja mentioned in another thread to physically hold a child down and 'force them' to brush their would be abuse, which I agree - but my parents' parenting style they would have 'forced' me to brush my teeth by giving a consequence for not doing so (if that were the case I personally did understand the importance so did it anyway) but if for example I thought it was bad for me etc and they told me to brush my teeth I did it. They were my parent and they were the authority - they didn't need to use physical means force me to do anything.
So question is how do you know which style will work best for your children especially given they likely have different personalities.
Im never going to be like my parents but I'm also not going to let my rules be up for discussion all the time, I'd like to find a balance, but what if my version of balance isn't suitable for my kids!? Do I change it or continue with it in the belief in doing the best thing for them?