My DD is nearly 5 and I haven't been with her father since she was very young (a few months old). I met my now husband when she was 1. We have another child & her bio father also has another child. My DD understands that they are both her siblings, but doesn't know what that means. I tried to explain that she has 2 Dads and that bio father is also her Dad (she calls him by his first name and my husband 'Dad'). I said that Mum & bio father 'name' used to love each other and live together, and we had her, but that we decided to be friends and I met 'Dad' and went on to explain that they are both her Dads. She got upset and said she only wants 1 Dad and my husband is her Daddy.
I don't know where to take it from here, she loves my husband and doesn't understand that genetically they are not related. I don't want to lie to her but I also thought she may have been too young prior to understand it but now I feel we made a mistake. We called my husband Dad and bio father Daddy 'name,' she chose to drop the Daddy and just call him by his name.
I'm lost as to how to age appropriately explain it to her...