Stuck in the horrid world on not knowing what to do again.
the ex is now going for joint custody, inc overnight (during week & weekends) and holidays.
the problem is that he has been violent towards the boys before, emotionally & physically (but I never called the police and reported it). My eldest is terrified of him and rarely will even go with him in daylight. They have never stayed with him, nor has he asked.
and my eldest (he's 8) is so scared of having to stay with him, that he says he will kill himself if he is forced to stay with his father. I don't even know how he knows this sort of thing so I spoke to him about it and he knows exactly what it means, but he still sees it as his best option.
If they go with him I don't know if they'll be safe. I don't know if I'll see them again.
is there anyway I can stop this, at least until they're old enough to protect themselves?
i am so so scared