If you read back over the last thread (#13) you will find many of the answers you are looking for - I'd also recommend having a look at the clinic websites (Google IVF clinics in South Africa) along with the donor agency sites (main ones include gift ov life, aBabySA and nurture) - they are packed with info.
Im heading over in December and this will be my first visit as an egg recipient so I'm sure some of the other ladies who have been can help you with your questions re clinics, Valium etc.
Your doctor here can prescribe you with something safe to help you relax if you are nervous about taking Valium with an embryo on board.
Ive been to Cape Town twice, for several weeks. It's one of my favourite cities. Like many other countries, SA certainly has dodgy districts, but plenty of safe areas too. You would be surprised how similar to Australia it feels in some parts. And Table Mountain and the beaches are breathtaking.
You don't need a special visa for SA.
Not sure if you have a partner - if yes, he will need to come also.
So costs all up including clinic, agency, flights and accomm for two, you will need about $14 to $16,000
wishing you lots of luck