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    Default Does anyone else feel this way?

    So the other night a friend of mine called and invited me to come to Sydney to go to a very public open air concert. I was excited and said probably yes.

    But within minutes I sadly realised I can't possibly go. The reason? I am beyond scared of being caught up in a terrorist attack.

    Logically I know all of the things - I'm more likely to die on the way to the airport; the odds are so low; Australia is a safe place; being scared is buying into what the terrorists want etc etc. Rationally I know these reasons are all valid and true.

    But the fact is, I *am* scared.

    Logically I know it's not in my control. I know that when it's my time it's my time. But I don't want my time to happen when I'm terrified and screaming among other people who are terrified and screaming. I don't want to experience an attack and survive and be scarred forever.

    I plan my holidays around which airports/routes I think are 'safer' than others.

    I know that I wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy this concert. I feel embarrassed by it - I don't want to turn around and say that I've changed my mind and explain why. But I'm going to have to.

    So I guess my question is - am I alone here? Does anyone else have this sneaky fear that is totally illogical and irrational but can't be silenced?

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    Yikes...that sounds like it impacts your life quite significantly...Have you ever considered having some therapy to help you overcome this fear?

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    I am the same, like you I know that a terrorist attack is very unlikely and sometimes hate that I am even thinking this way. However everytime when I walk into busy train station or busy places, the fear appears instantly. I know my thoughts are silly but just can't help
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    I was secretly relieved I didn't have to work Riverfire in Brisbane last week ( major fireworks display). They were expecting 500,000 people and I knew extra security was on so I was a little freaked out.
    When the police are putting extra measures in place it gets me worried.

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    I currently am not too worried about an attack in Aus personally. BUT I understand the anxiety.

    I can't sit here and tell you nothing will happen but do you think you can get through the anxiety to go?

    My (out of nowhere) current anxiety provoking issue is getting in the car/on the bus. Not driving. Just being on the bus/in the car I am certain there will be an accident every single time.

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    I hate big crowds in general, l love space but l must admit the thought has crossed my mind. Going to events like the Ekka really doesn't appeal to me because the first thing that l thought of was there could be an attack. I have no desire to go overseas where as once l would've loved to travel.

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    I'm also surveying areas and reviewing escape routes lol in saying that I also mentally plan if there's a zombie epidemic how I would get out of the city and home without being eaten by a walker lol

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    I have to say I don't worry about this at all. Fear other illogical things, yes, but not this ☺

    Your fear sounds a bit debilitating. Is it something you've always worried about, or was there a trigger?

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    I have thoughts about things like that when im going to a big event but they are more passing thoughts than something that would stop me attending


 

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