@Tahli sigh of frucking relief!
@tuxcat yay for pupo!
I need some good news because...
Afm... well im also pupo because i had my transfer this morning... because we only had 2 decent embys left on day 3... because it seems that dh's sperm is no good... my worst nightmare that this round of ivf would be a very expensive diagnostic procedure has come true. So my donor was 26 and proven. She gave 14 eggs, 9 mature, 7 fertilised, but by day 3 there were only 4 embryos, 2 of which had 8 cells and the rest were totally fragmented!!! When they said i was going in for transfer, i panicked a bit because i didnt understand why! But dr.n explained all the above and i then went into a bit of shock, i.e. i felt numb with disbelief. He was surprised noone us australia had suggested dhs sperm might be an issue too. But it always looked good in samples and he has a daughter fron a previous relationship but i guess it helps explain why we never got any good embies. So we transferred the 2 eight cell day 3 embies. But im not very hopeful if the sperm isnt good. And then while i was lying down i started sobbing uncontrollably. When dr.n came to check on me he was so lovely. He whisked us into his office and we made a plan z. Dh is leaving a frozen sample on monday. Dr.n is going to use the same egg donor and do a split cycle using dh sperm and donor sperm. He was very good in explaining this cycle wasnt a waste because the only way to know dh also has a problem was to use known good young eggs. And i think he is right. Im glad i didnt put in the time and effort finding my own donor using the aussie process too now so thats a blessing in disguise. He also said if this cycle works, "you'll forget everything we just talked about" which us also true although i worry about miscarriage now. But anyway, he will make us a batch of embies using donor eggs with dh sperm and donor sperm and see how they go. So today was pretty confronting. I also had a moment where i wondered if my own eggs actually are ok but im not going to bother trying an oe and donor sperm cycle coz i movedvpast caring about my own eggs ages ago. Im a bit sad that now probably our child would have no generic link to either parents but just remind myself, i just want to be a mum. I feel really sorry for dh coz i know how its feels to be told your bits are no good and he is upset about all the money spent in australia when they said his sperm was ok. But he's been looking after me the last 2 years and now I'll get the chance to return that care. So, i will be amazed if this cycle works and will be busy in the tww working out money stuff to fund the plan z. And now we're going for a swim in the rooftop pool to wash away todays craziness. xox
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Gosh @gorgeousgeorge I'm so sorry this is happening to you guys! Has your DH ever had sperm testing done at all? The good thing is that you are pupo and you have a plan in case you need another one so the dr sounds very good and also caring which is a big help to you guys. The 2 you've transferred sound great in any case so you might not need to worry about any of that other stuff, but I totally get your frustrations and all the thoughts of your own eggs that would have definitely gone through your mind. How long are you guys in Greece for? I hope you can have some nice relaxed time now that you're pupo and to just enjoy the surrounds and the hopeful stage that is now.
Congrats on being PUPO lovely
congrats on being PUPO @tuxcat.
great follie numbers @Blossom74 - sounding great for your donor's upcoming EPU & beyond
whew @Tahli. that's looking so much better @gorgeousgeorge what a shock for you both. hugs. congrats on being PUPO and best of luck for these 2 embies. I think you're still in with a great chance. I guess it's usually just us hearing OE are bad, perhaps it's more of a shock for the men as they're told (by society in general) they can have kids at any age
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