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    Default Fifth chemical pregnancy and I feel like I'll never recover from this.

    I've just lost another little angel unfortunately the other day but didn't find out for sure until Friday afternoon.

    It's the fifth chemical pregnancy I've had in a row and before that, I experienced a miscarriage also at between 6 and 7 weeks. Why? Why does this keep on happening to me? It's NOT fair. I mean, I wasn't trying for these pregnancies. Not actively TTC but it's terribly upsetting anyway. I just want to lock myself away!

    And it's not like I have anyone to talk too. No one really 'gets' it except to some extent my partner but even then, he doesn't completely understand. I feel as if I'm to blame for all this. There must be something wrong with me after all, this hasn't happened just once or twice, this is the 6th time and I'm sick death of it!

    I don't know, I guess I just needed a place to vent. Thank you if you read xx

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    Hugs Hun. Couldn't read and not respond. It's not easy at all. I'd find a new GP and get a referral to a fertility specialist to investigate what's going on

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    Sorry to hear. Are you on fertility medication (Clomid?) Or trying naturally?Have you spoke to Obs about this? Possible reasons could be thin lining / low progesterone, or own immunise system attacking the implanted embryo. All treatable. Good luck.

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    I'm so very sorry We lost 3 before our last child and it tore our hearts out. DH is the type to lock it away and not discuss it whereas I needed to.

    I don't know how many tests you've had, but I would see a gyno and have everything done, including getting your DH tested. This many pgs tells me his count and motility is fine, but his morphology may not be great.

    As I said, I would get an internal u/s, and if you don't get answers move onto a lap and a HSG. Your tubes clearly aren't blocked, but the HSG can show issues with the uterus. I've been in lots of ttc groups and in my experience, chemicals are often caused by quite fixable issues. Pin down what is causing this.

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    Hey ladies. Thank you for your replies and your sympathies. It is much appreciated a lot.

    As for looking into why it's happening, I am not interested in going down the fertility specialist route at all. I wasn't trying to conceive and I don't see the point in going down that path if I'm not TTC. I think I will just be much more careful in regards to contraception now. I did want these bubs, don't get me wrong but they were accidents. I think I'm better off trying again naturally when I'm ready and if things end up the same then I'll go down the fertality route.

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    Hi Butterfly, I'm so sorry you are going through this. To give you a bit of hope I had 5 miscarriages/ chemical pregnancies before falling naturally a sixth time and carrying to term. It was a huge shock for us after 5 losses, bug it just goes to show that it can happen. The only explanation for our losses was the age of my eggs as we started when I was 36.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EmmaJane75 View Post
    Hi Butterfly, I'm so sorry you are going through this. To give you a bit of hope I had 5 miscarriages/ chemical pregnancies before falling naturally a sixth time and carrying to term. It was a huge shock for us after 5 losses, bug it just goes to show that it can happen. The only explanation for our losses was the age of my eggs as we started when I was 36.
    Thank you so much hun. That does give me hope for the future when I am ready TTC. I am so glad you got your rainbow bub in the end. What a little miracle! Xx

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    Hi OP, so sorry for your losses and trouble with fertility, since you're not actively trying to conceive I'd suggest you start the process of investigating why you are having early miscarriages so you can be prepared and informed when you are ready.
    Before I started trying for a baby I just never thought miscarriages would happen to me, tbh I never ever thought about them, no one ever mention a miscarriage to me ...
    I have two healty children that came from 9 pregnancies, one still birth and 6 early miscarriages and from a medical point of view there's nothing wrong with my reproductive system, so don't loose hope.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ciaomamma View Post
    Hi OP, so sorry for your losses and trouble with fertility, since you're not actively trying to conceive I'd suggest you start the process of investigating why you are having early miscarriages so you can be prepared and informed when you are ready.
    Before I started trying for a baby I just never thought miscarriages would happen to me, tbh I never ever thought about them, no one ever mention a miscarriage to me ...
    I have two healty children that came from 9 pregnancies, one still birth and 6 early miscarriages and from a medical point of view there's nothing wrong with my reproductive system, so don't loose hope.
    Hey, thanks for your reply
    I know I should try and find out why all the losses but I just can't. I don't think I really want to know anymore. Maybe I'm just hurting badly and the not wanting to investigate will wear off. But right now, I just want to forget this all ever happened yet it's constantly on my mind! Argh!

    Thank you also for sharing your story I'm so glad you ended up with two healthy children after all your losses. It does give me hope for the future. I suppose it just was one of those 'not meant to be' kind of scenarios. It still sucks though

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    Hey OP sometimes we need a break from the rollercoaster of emotions.
    Take some time to clear your head.
    Best of luck


 

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