So I know at 3 they are still learning empathy but DH is almost the opposite of empathy. You say why did you do that and he says ' i want to hurt him/her', he shows no remorse at all. If you say what happened with a totally deadpan face he'll look at you and say I pushed /bite him. Ask him why? He'll say I want to. I've not noticed particularly mean stuff to animals. We have a puppy and he was mean at first but he was more rough then mean and he's learnt not too. But still has his moments. There was one incident with a small moth. He was trying to squash it. I said not to and he said he wanted to kill it. I said it will hurt the moth and the moths family would miss it etc l. He said ' I don't care '. I don't like the moth. That freaked me out a bit but nothing like that has happened since. He is the youngest of three and very articulate for his age but I'm starting to worry. He has always been rough like this - since quite young but I'm thinking he needs to get an assessment or something! In everything else he's fine, advanced for his age in lots of areas actually. Anyway one else been though this???? I'm not sure how long to wait.
Also, the childcare has said they would expect his level of empathy to be higher then what it is right now. It's at the level of a much younger child.