We've done it for our kids. DS1 I used to have to stay until he was asleep. DD i sing 6 songs and have a quick chat. DS2 is breastfed and cuddled and kissed. I think it's an important stage of their lives and in our family its what we do
Yup. I'm struggling to see your husband's side.
Usually DP stays with our 4 year old for 'long cuddles'; laying on her bed cuddling... I usually come in for at least part of stories and give her a hug. I breastfeed DS (15 months) to, or near to, sleep on the 4-5 nights a week that I'm home, and would lay with him if he weren't in a cot.
Every night one or both of us lays down with DS, I specifically bought a double bed when he was finished with the cot for this purpose!
We read 3 books, toilet, cuddle in bed, then say goodnight and leave 9/10 he falls asleep on his own, every now and then I'll be a "muuummmmyyy' and I go in and snuggle him until he is asleep if DH goes in the second call I have to go and wake him up after an hour or so because he always falls asleep!
I still lay with my 5yo when he goes to bed for 5-10mins...I also briefly lay with my 10yo every night. My 13yo DD regularly asks me to lay with her at bedtime...usually when she wants to chat about something. I love that she still asks and feel it is a very valuable time for us.
Little Miss Sunshine (14-09-2016)
I don't 'just' lie down with DS1 (4 years) at bedtime. Well not really. We get our cuddles/wrestles before bed when we are having showers/getting in pj's etc. Book might go for 5 minutes then I spend 2 minutes telling my DS I love him, what I am proud of him for that day, what's on the schedule for tomorrow. Then lights out.
My ds1 likes routine and it only takes 1-2 times of doing something before he expects that every time. If my hubby started laying down with ds2 for 15 minutes once lights were out I wouldn't be too impressed. It would mean DS going to sleep later (when working we're already cutting bedtime fine). It could start impacting ds1's ability to fall asleep on his own. It would mean we would be behind in chores (prepping out own dinner/lunches for the next day/ironing/tidying/paying bills etc). Being a full time working parent we just can't afford to have 15 minutes of staticness each night. And if hubby does it once or twice then it will be a week or so of tantrums for me to undo those expectations.
Hubby hasn't done this in particular however he had made other 'minor/innocent' changes to our schedule which have ****ed me off as they just create more work for everyone in the long run.
Last edited by VicPark; 14-09-2016 at 06:56.
We lie in bed with our DS1 (5 years old) to read books. I like a cuddle after but he is pretty quick to say ok mum get out of my bed now! . Has always been Mr Independent....
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