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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    Am it the only one who thinks people are becoming far too precious and paranoid about their kids being accidentally being filmed in the background?

    I understand maybe those who are high profile or other certain professions, but seriously what is the big deal about a parent filming and focusing on their kid at an event/park/school thing and another kid is caught in the background playing or something? I don't know their names, their is no real way to link them on social media, it's just a random kid in the background playing or whatever FFS.
    I get what you mean, but a random kid in the background on social media can have more consequences than in a developed photo in the family album. There's the possibility that the child is in a situation where they could be at risk and their location being identified could have serious ramifications.

    Also, and I'm going to sound like a nutter here, but we have no idea exactly how our photos are collected and used on social media. Some parents are careful about what footprint they leave behind for their children and we have to respect that.

    Generally, I don't mind if someone is taking a photo of their child and mine is in the background, but I would feel uncomfortable in the OP's situation.
    I also really dislike that parents take photos when my child is doing swimming lessons.

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    Sorry LMS but I don't feel precious about it. That footage is, once uploaded online "forever" for lack of a better word and I'd prefer it wasn't floating about out there for whomever to right click & save. I think that's mindful and informed, not paranoid. Also, I'm talking about filming where my child is actually just as present, face on, and recognisable as your own in this situation from yesterday - not background.

    I just think it shows respect to others to ask, is it ok to film here with your child present?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BornToBe View Post
    Sorry LMS but I don't feel precious about it. That footage is, once uploaded online "forever" for lack of a better word and I'd prefer it wasn't floating about out there for whomever to right click & save. I think that's mindful and informed, not paranoid. Also, I'm talking about filming where my child is actually just as present, face on, and recognisable as your own in this situation from yesterday - not background.

    I just think it shows respect to others to ask, is it ok to film here with your child present?
    I agree I wouldn't be comfortable with what you described in your op. I've edited my post to clarify.

    But if I'm filming my bubs for the first time on a swing etc and some kids are running in the background.... I'm sure as hell not wanting to delete that and don't see the big deal. As I said there are certain situations where it may be necessary but I just think people are getting so OTT about "don't film my kids, I don't want them on film" etc when it's the back of a kids head and I have no clue or care who they are

    Eta: I agree it would be nice manners to ask if it's ok but if it's not obvious who the parents are, it's a busy park etc I also don't think it's rude for not asking everyone either
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    I disagree that police in this case would have been overkill. I would rather report suspicious activity such as that & have police politely talk to innocent people acting in a manner such as this than let one pedophile get away with their actions because people don't want to act. It isn't like police are going to come all guns blazing into the situation, and it isn't like when you approach someone they are going to admit to randomly videoing kids - not a risk I am willing to take (although I also admit to my reasoning for such a strong stance on the issue being personal and related to my experiences growing up that have destroyed my life in adulthood)

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    I don't like it personally. I've never asked someone to stop filming their child, just call mine away while someone else is filming. I also decline for my kids to be published on their school website, or other events.
    Recently, it worked in my favour. My pre-teen was hanging out with a friend who was texting a boy. Said friend wanted to take a photo of my child and share with this boy. My child said no, as we have discussed why we don't want photos circulating to people we don't know. I overheard some worrying stuff so alerted that child's parents. The child was talking to a paedophile, who knows the area that this kid lives in. My child almost had their photo sent to a paedophile. Scary. We have now added in a 'no photos taken of you on friend's phones' rule...because you don't know where they're going to end up.

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    I would confront him and take his phone.

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    A few months ago we went to the park, my 2 year old slipped while trying to climb up the slide and he knocked his lip. It bled. There was a lot of blood. I took him off the slide to clean him up but he wanted to stay on the slide so he threw a massive tantrum on the ground.
    Now because there was a fair bit of blood people were staring, probably thinking I had bashed him. I was calm though.
    Well one lady walking her dog actuslly got out her camera on her phone so I asked what her problem was.
    She said "I'll report you" I asked what she meant since she wasn't there when he slipped so what would she know. I told her if she doesn't delete my son off her phone I'll be calling the police. Partner threatend to take her phone and throw it in the river nearby.

    She could of just asked me what happened. She could of asked if my son was ok (he was, no stitches needed), instead of getting out her camera like that..

    Another time partner took two kids (7 and 11) to the park again and this man was taking photos of all the kids there. Partner asked what he was doing and he just walked off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unschooling4 View Post
    I would confront him and take his phone.
    You can't do that.
    That's stealing.
    By all means if you are suss call the police.
    But you have no right to take someone's phone.

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    Playing devils advocate here. What if you caught them filming up someone's skirt?
    Citizens arrest type thing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unschooling4 View Post
    A few months ago we went to the park, my 2 year old slipped while trying to climb up the slide and he knocked his lip. It bled. There was a lot of blood. I took him off the slide to clean him up but he wanted to stay on the slide so he threw a massive tantrum on the ground.
    Now because there was a fair bit of blood people were staring, probably thinking I had bashed him. I was calm though.
    Well one lady walking her dog actuslly got out her camera on her phone so I asked what her problem was.
    She said "I'll report you" I asked what she meant since she wasn't there when he slipped so what would she know. I told her if she doesn't delete my son off her phone I'll be calling the police. Partner threatend to take her phone and throw it in the river nearby.

    She could of just asked me what happened. She could of asked if my son was ok (he was, no stitches needed), instead of getting out her camera like that..

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    Because threatening to take someone's phone and throw throw it in the river would certainly de-escalate the situation and prove you aren't doing the wrong thing.

    Quote Originally Posted by Olive Oil View Post
    Playing devils advocate here. What if you caught them filming up someone's skirt?
    Citizens arrest type thing?
    There is a big difference between witnessing someone commit a criminal act and someone acting, in your eyes, suspicious.

    I personally wouldn't recommend attempting to take a phone if you see someone up skirting simply for personal safety reasons. I'm sure the police don't advocate that either.


 

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