I am in real need of some help/guidance/advice please
DD is 21 mths old. Excellent sleeper until a hospital stay at 10mths but back in a routine from Feb this year. Goes down about 7-745pm (after a very short protest cry) and generally sleeps until about 6-630am. Has a midday nap of normally 1.5 hours
Has had various coughs/colds etc over the past 3-4 weeks so has been waking up at night coughing and on the nights when she wouldn't/couldn't go back to sleep when she was sick we would give panadol, cuddle/pat/sit with her, to be honest whatever worked to get her back to sleep. One night we resorted to driving around at 2am. It seemed to be she'd sleep well one night then wake up the following night.
But, she is now better and waking up every night, any time from 2am onwards and will not go back to sleep. Sat and Sunday am were both 3am and this morning was 4am. Nothing is working. She is not cold, wet or hungry, she just wakes up and bang, is ready for the day to begin. Clearly she's not as she's only had 6-8 hours sleep. We've tried everything. I am not wanting to start giving her milk as I believe that will just reinforce her waking up and I'm not giving her medication to make her sleep when there is nothing wrong with her. I don't want to cuddle/pat her to sleep as thats not really solving the problem. We've tried calming her and walking out, sitting there, playing her music that she normally has on when she goes to bed (this makes her cry more as she knows we're trying to get her to sleep). As a last resort I have even tried lying with her but as soon as we leave the room she cracks it. We have even left her to cry a bit (with reassurance) but she just gets more and more upset. I am not against CC or CIO (and did have to use a form of CC to get her back to sleeping and self settling) but we are just at our wits end. I am averaging about 4 hours sleep a night and am six mths pregnant, I am constantly sick and run down and its making me extremely sad because I know she needs to sleep.
How can I help her get back to sleep? She can self settle as she does it at daycare (3 x wk) and also every night, we never put her down asleep.
Do we just let her cry for longer and see what happens? I am desperate. We've been told to try phernegan (?) to break the habit but I don't know much about it and not sure how this sits with me. I did text her paed this am but thought would ask for some guidance on here.
Thanks so much
Any help would be so gratefully received.