Thank you for all the replies. Definitely not contempt. I just have this bitterness all the time when it comes to finances. He is a great husband and we get along so well, just one big flaw
So I'll elaborate on my situation a bit. He is addicted to cars. He has ADD. He is addicted to change and he would change cars all the time, losing money with each change. I actually got to the point where I made a 'contract' that he had to sign stating how long he has to own his current car for. How much out of the last sale he has to put back on the credit card. That I get one car free day every week, where cars are not mentioned at all and lastly that he has to talk to someone. The last two haven't happened and they won't happen. He has his mother in his ear telling him that he doesn't have a problem and everything is fine, So he cancelled his app with the doctor.
He tells me he has changed but he hasn't at all. And I don't believe in his situation its something that can just change overnight but he definitely doesn't care about making the steps to change it.
When I start to talk to him about whats going on he immediately goes into defense mode. "Yes, I know its all my fault, I don't need to be told about it". "I'm not the only one that uses the credit card". He definitely doesn't HEAR the problem or where I'm coming from which only gives me less hope of everything being sorted out. All he keeps talking about is that when the personal loan is refinanced back into the mortgage everything will be dandy. I'm not that naive. I still know that's not fixing the issue with himself its literally just putting another bandaid over the top.
He asked me for $400 out of the credit card last night for car parts so I think the time has come where a couples counselor is the only answer. Has anyone had experience with couples counseling for finances?? Hopefully its worth it!