*not sure if I have entered this rant into the correct category*
My story is a bit long and drawn out BUT I will make it as short and simple as possible and stick to the details.
I was left a large sum of inheritance and I invested it into property with my ex partner. It made a massive difference to our mortgage and put us in an awesome position for our first house. Anyway time passed and we split up. I remarried and myself and my current partner bought my ex partner out of our house so we now are living in it. In the 3 years my ex partner stayed in the house paying a lot off the mortgage and it got to the point where the mortgage was under $100k.
When I met my husband he had a significant amount of debt. When we refinanced the mortgage to buy my ex out we consolidated his debts and credit card into the loan and they were practically payed out, Only $10k remaining. This left the entire loan open for redraw. *massive regret that I didn't make it so he couldn't touch it*. He used the entire amount of the loan back up and the credit card. *Yes, I did hide the credit card but he can still transfer, use ebay ect*
Now we are in a worse position then when we first started. I had to go back to work. He is determined to get the loan once again consolidated into the mortgage. Doing this will put the mortgage $30k OVER the purchase price in 2010. I'm so upset and hurt. I feel like we are constantly going backwards. I don't want to live in a tiny house with a family of 4. I have dreams of my own and I feel like they are completely out of reach. I have basically kissed all the benefits of my inheritance to give me a head start in life goodbye.
How on earth do I stop resenting him!? I hate the way I constantly feel towards finances. I am bitter and upset. How do I let these feelings go!?