Heartiest Congratulations Skeeter!
Heartiest Congratulations Skeeter!
Awesome news skeeter.
Thanks everyone... i never made a post about twins, just suspicious from my high levels. So that was my sneaky way of slipping that in there!
Hello my dear friends… I hope some of you will be able to still recognize me. I haven’t been online from the past 9 months, so I am sorry at this sage I don’t know what is happening in everybodys life.
But I would like to share some thoughts about my journey as I am finding it too hard to cope up all by myself. So Here I go
After my 14th cycle (stimulated +frozen) did not work in Dec, we decided to go the surrogacy route as all doctors were saying different things…. LB, NL, Dr M, Wazza… have consulted them all and I must say, Wazza was the best out of all in giving true advice. He said you can keep on trying as much as you want, its you as a couple who needs to decide when to stop, and if you have all the resources to try surrogacy, then no harm as I have had a major brain surgery in between all these ivfs and took a break for 2 years and then continued and I have tried way too many cycles even with pgd embryos, immune protocol, intralipids etc.. (But not the very extreme ones which some other girls have done) as I have done enough harm to my body.
So we started looking for options and found Ukraine to be in our reach and it is totally legal. We went to Ukraine to check out the clinics. Most of the clinics there have combined packages of donor egg+ surrogacy with a certain number of attempts etc and most of the ladies were over 45, close to 50 who had tried everything else. There were clients mostly from all of Europe and the US. When we saw the doctor in the clinic that we chose, she said why don’t you do one cycle with your own eggs and if it does not work , we will move to donor eggs (as technically dh and I have not been diagnosed with any problem). I get many eggs , many normal embryos etc. I have heard things from senior doctors in Aus that the embryos might lose the puff, cosmic forces are against u and u need to go to the church more often etc etc etc…. as n body could do a proper diagnosis.
So we did a cycle, and we got 3 pgd normal embryos out of that cycle, which was quite good for my age(39 at that time). They took their time and found the surrogate, and implanted 2 pgd normal embryos into her as 1 didn’t survive the thaw. And yes we got a positive hcg result. The hcg was 628 12dp5dt which the nurse said was excellent. So another 3 weeks of waiting for the 7 week scan and I got an email last week, that there was no heartbeat and the pregnancy was lost. I was shattered beyond words as you all can imagine.. I really don’t know the reason, they were pgd normal and were in a tested fertile womb surpassing all issues ….
So now… things move really quickly in Ukraine unlike here… I got an email from the clinic that ae we ready to select our donor.. They sent us a list of profiles.. I know that the clinic is not going to make more money this way as now they will need to pay the donor etc… and their pay structure is very clear.. after transfer we don’t pay anything till the 12 week scan with oe/de…
I just want to share that I am very very sad… and yes somewhere in my mind I was kind of ready for a de if I didn’t get any normal or if they didn’t work, but now the fact that it worked and then we lost it without any reason is giving me a lot of trouble to move on…. Can any of the girls who have had a DE experience or are thinking of going for it…. please share how is it and when and what made you move from OE to DE (ofcourse the urge to be a mum). Were you given a clear diagnosis that it was not going to work with OE or you chose that it is just enough( apart from the monetary reasons). I know it is a very personal decision but I just want to see what all of you lovelies would have done if you were in my shoes…. I am sorry for such a long post, but wanted to write my heart out as I haven’t stopped crying since last week.
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LillyM, you sound about as excited as I am for the next cycle! (Also my last with current Fs). Did she give you a possible explanation for your fert rate for the last cycle? Hopefully you got some answers and if not - at least your appointment with Charlotte won't be too far away. Is it an antagonist cycle your doing next ? x
Last edited by BlondeinBrisvegas; 20-09-2016 at 18:22.
Oh Luv.....Obviously I've got no advice having not had to go down the DE route, I just wanted to tell you how very, very sorry I am to hear your news Luv. I feel bloody heartsore for you!!! You've been through so much!!! I can't believe this has happened!!! I can't imagine why it happened either!!!!
Anyway....am thinking of you and sending you much, much love and
I think you should also copy and paste your post to the Greek and South Africa DE Threads too Luv as the Girls on there will no doubt be more than happy to answer you as will the Lovelies on the thread here
Please keep coming here on the thread for support too and let us know how we can help you ok???xoxxoxoxoxo
I've been wondering how you've been going
Hi @Sue77, I remember you - I left here for a while too but then came back...I'm so sorry you lost your little one. I recently had a miscarriage myself at 6 1/2 weeks and it's horrendous...We're not going down the de path so I can't offer any advice there, but I'm glad you've jumped back on here as I'm sure many of the wise lovelies here will be able to share their thoughts.
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