@Charlie74 I wish I could give you a hug. Your courage is inspiring xxx
I've always known it as the mother frucker gene as when I was tested for it by my naturopath she called it that. I went home and cried the whole night. Funny now that I know more about it but at the time I thought I was going to die or at least not be able to have a baby. I was right about the latter.
So I've just downloaded that book onto my iPad because I'm too impatient to wait for post.
I did look at some of those textbooks on Google and realised that I'm way too dumb to decipher all the big words (although I like the idea of reading one in public so I look really smart). The one you've recommended looks perfect.
I hadn't thought to look for the Children's books on The BD. Will have a look now. Thanks again lovely xxx
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@Charlie74 :-) you are amazing and strong and wonderful and yes, its possible to be all that and be having a meltdown at the same time. I love mindfulness meditation. I dont do it coz im a d i c k h e a d and j cant sit still (which is why i need to practise it). I have a few cds for pain management mindfulness and i totally am sold on it. I read lots of neuroscience books about how it changes the structure of your brain and it can be seen on an MRI. So i know it works. Im hoping one day I'll be so good at it that if my limbs get chopped off, I'll be like "pain is just a sensation, acknowledge it as such and move on". I'll be like that buddhist monk that set himself on fire and didnt flinch. Just have to put the disc in the cd player first though. Journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
Its a mad a r s e world of advertising and stupid memes n stuff we live in, where the world and society seems to tell us constantly to think positive, look on the brightside, snap out of it etc.. Has the world forgotten that humans arent rational? We are emotional creatures that react and respond to the things that happen to us. Since when is it not ok to feel negative emotions which are in proportion to our circumstances?
These days, whenever people have that "look on the bright side" attitude, it just reminds me of the monty python, life of brian, crucifixion scene. You know, yeah maybe there is a bright side but there's a time and a place for it and its not immediately after experiencing something shocking and difficult.
Im so glad the meditation has helped and its good that you and dh are so close and supporting each other.
Im gonna start my own advertising campaign and make memes about "when sad stuff happens, its ok to feel sad" and "dont try not to feel stuff, feel it and acknowledge its a feeling" -like der!
I also love what you said about acknowledging that thoughts are just that. Thoughts arent facts or predictions destined to become true. Im stealing that for my imaginary campaign. I'll give you royalties on all the imaginary money I'll make.
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@Charlie74 forgot to add i also uninstalled facebook after someone i hardly know made a nasty comment when i commented on a childrens book. They said, "do you even have kids?" in a realky nasty way and i let loose. Ive always been able to just keep scrolling past all the ignorant red neck stuff and i was ashamed that i let this person i hardly know upset me so much. And that i showed the world my pain by replying, so i havent been on it for weeks and omg i am so much happier. Its like, my friends wouldnt come over to my house to shove their baby photos in my face, so why am i inviting this pain into my lounge room by opening up facebook. Im really surprised at how much i am enjoying having facebook out of my life.
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@Caesardust how are you doing my lovely friend? Ive been thinking about you too. Things must be really hard and im totally aware of being about to start my de cycle and being in the excited/hopeful stage while you are processing an unsuccessful cycle. Its a weird thing when we are all at different stages of the same journey that has so many ups and downs. Sigh... im not sure what else to say except that im thinking of you. I hope your thought about not being able to have a baby is just that, a thought, not a prophecy xox
Thanks for thinking of me @georgeousgeorge. I'm vicariously living through you lovelies who are cycling and just plodding along. I check in once a day at least but mostly just trying to not concentrate on ivf too much and just live for a bit. It's weird. It's like you've lost a leg when you're not cycling when you have done for so long. Have a good day xo
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