I used to get overwhelming breakdowns whenever I had a failed cycle, the dark wave I call it. Sooo bad. Totally out of control.
And then I decided that I didn't want the Ivf do that to me on the top of everything else. And for my 2 last cycles I managed to keep it at bay. I mean of course I was terribly sad but I didnt allow myself to get in that state of total despair which made me feel stronger and more in control.
This is really personal of course.
This ruminating concept sounds really interesting too. Pretty sure we all do it.
Glad for you that your session was good.
As per the determined part of you, I'd say it doesn't take a psych to see it!