It was @Charlie74 .. I actually got the Calm app but I opened it in the office at my desk and these enormous waves were booming & crashing on my phone and I did the panic shut down.
You should record a pep talk and get your Mum to play it to them each day when she feeds them.
I bought a feeder for my cat and you can record messages on it. It's set on a timer so when it feeds him it plays the message. I had to turn it off though as the dogs cottoned onto it and were out scoffing the food before it even hit the bowl. While the cat just kept sleeping.
It's a good idea in theory if you don't have greedy dogs.
@Sue77 yes i can understand about it being hard to work with the little ones. I remember someone on this thread (ive forgotten who soz) was a nurse in a maternity ward and one of my embryologists was doing ivf herself. I cant imagine how hard that would be. To be honest, i think that being a teacher in the same school for 10 years in a small town/ its the only high school in our town, has probably given me really valuable observations and insights into the similarities and surprising differences between parents and siblings. So i see whole families come through the school. I only just realised in other occupations, its probably rare to be constantly meeting members of the same families and getting to know them over 6 years. As much as i want to do the mum thing, teaching does allow you to be an important person in childrend lives, so although its not the same, its probably the next best thing in a way. Teenagers also much easier than little ones or babies. Dont think i could work in a day care.
Regarding your donors height and weight, i guess you cant tell how that will work out sometimes people have family traits that they dont show themselves, so you won't know until bubba was all grown up anyway and by that time, i reckon youd be head over heels in love anyway xox
Hey ladies.. So I've been away for a couple of days and just been doing a big catch up on here. DH is looking at me like I've gone mental as I've gone from crying through to bursting out in laughter several times. @Sue77 I'm in awe of your strength - I really hope this is the beginning of all of your happy endings. @gorgeousgeorge and everyone else worded it so beautifully, and it really is such a personal journey and decision. For me, (although it's scary) it's about completing my family - IVF has been traumatic and heartbreaking and time is not on my side at my age. A couple of months ago I reached rock bottom after cycle 3 failed almost exactly a year after an ectopic miscarriage. I found myself in a restaurant with friends, one of whom innocently asked if we were going to have any more kids, when I burst into tears at the table.
That was my 'enough is enough' moment.
I have zero doubt that I will hold my gurgling little DE bubba in my arms and feel like their Mama. And I'm sure when they are having a toddler tantrum I will love them just as much. It's taken me a bit to let go of the attachment to my own DNA thing - but really, what does it matter? My son was conceived naturally and he's nothing like me - he constantly surprises me with his individuality and funny little ways. I feel confident that if our DE baby dream comes true, that this one will surprise us just as much.
Thank you so much to everyone on here for all of your beautiful, honest posts. You are all just bloody amazing. xx
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Grace1 I used DHEA for my last two cycles (cycles 3 and 4). I was only on it for 6 weeks the first time and 2 1/2 months the second. The first cycle with it wasn't so crash hot, the second was great!
Charlie74 I read about it online and I was desperate. I will try to find the link tomorrow. I took the dosage on the tub as there wasn't one recommended when I read it. I could only get the powder and it smells and tastes gross..
@Maxwellsmum yep the DM app helps me select my calmness..
@skeeter your DHEA comment got me excited for @LillyM ... @LillyM you must be hitting jackpot for DHEA to kick in like a turbo diesel. You are cyclinf with me so you are already halfway there..
@skeeter please don't be scared to backflip on here about your massive win. Its very much allowed to scream from a mountain your news when we go through such hell.
@gorgeousgeorge I drafted a big PM to you and then told you don't accept them. What you asked, Yes.
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