Last edited by BlondeinBrisvegas; 20-09-2016 at 19:22.
Oh Luv.....Obviously I've got no advice having not had to go down the DE route, I just wanted to tell you how very, very sorry I am to hear your news Luv. I feel bloody heartsore for you!!! You've been through so much!!! I can't believe this has happened!!! I can't imagine why it happened either!!!!
Anyway....am thinking of you and sending you much, much love and
I think you should also copy and paste your post to the Greek and South Africa DE Threads too Luv as the Girls on there will no doubt be more than happy to answer you as will the Lovelies on the thread here
Please keep coming here on the thread for support too and let us know how we can help you ok???xoxxoxoxoxo
I've been wondering how you've been going
Hi @Sue77, I remember you - I left here for a while too but then came back...I'm so sorry you lost your little one. I recently had a miscarriage myself at 6 1/2 weeks and it's horrendous...We're not going down the de path so I can't offer any advice there, but I'm glad you've jumped back on here as I'm sure many of the wise lovelies here will be able to share their thoughts.
Wow @Sue77 I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your babies, it's devastating especially when there is so much hope there with PGD normal and a surrogate. It sounds a bit like you need some time to grieve before you are ready to move on to donor eggs if that's what you decide.
Time is what I would say helped me get there, we were told to consider them after a good lot of IVF cycles that weren't yielding many eggs and my age basically. So at first it was totally devastating, it came out of the blue to me and I left walking through a crowded hospital clinic full of pregnant women in tears, I was so shocked and desperate, I really was. I wasn't ready. So I felt like we needed to keep trying and so we did, and again at the next clinic appointment, it was raised again. By that stage I still wasn't ready but it wasn't as shocking but then after more failed cycles and being pretty exposed to others doing donor eggs in here, I started processing it all. And then we got to Xmas last year and decided we wanted to give it a go. So here we are a week into our first de cycle! Now I'm totally comfortable with it and am excited as it's the only way we will get to have a family so I'm embracing it. I guess there are moments where I think about not passing any of my DNA onto our child but they are fleeting and not often at all actually. I'm just ready to have a baby. All of these things just take time, and being in this group has definitely been a major factor with feeling good about moving on as I have seen lots of others who were already there with it and finally getting their take home babies.
hope that helps xxx
@Sue77 im more than happy to share how i transitioned from oe to de. I will post in about half hour. Its gonna be a long one (sorry to everyone who's heard it before...but maybe it will help anyone who stumbles across this page one day. Be back soon xox
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