I love this! Very wise... Will def try to use it for myself@Charlie74 hello to you lovely lady, ive been thinking of you. I was trying to think of helpful things to say over rhe last few days n this is what ive come up with. I reckon that the 'surrogacy' thing is a bit like the donor thing in that its a big transition/ shift in your thinking and planning. So, after my 3rd cycle, when fs said to do a 4th then i needed to use a donor, i didnt want to think about de and now in hindsight, i realised that i didnt need to until after my 4th cycle failed.
So i was thinking, maybe try to focus on what you are working on now. Surrogacy will be on your mind for sure BUT maybe you can put it in a box in the back of your mind. So we're working on seeing if the meds can help your lining. This is a current worry which is happening now, whereas the 'Surrogacy' thing is a future worry. You may never need to think about it, so maybe schedule it in to worry about at a later date, when it needs to be considered. If anyone can improve your lining, its wazza, so you will know everything is being done as best as it can be. If it works then thats great. If it doesnt, you wont always wonder if you have had seen someone else or tried something else etc... maybe it would have made a difference, iykwim? So until youve tried this first plan and find out the outcome, you dont even need to think about anything else, unless you want to.
Im totally not trying to tell you what you should do or how you should think though, my friend xox I just read a thing once about 'scheduling' time to worry. It said to make appointment times for your worries and do the worrying at the scheduled appointment time. E.g. if you start worrying about the surrogacy thing, you could say to your worries "im sorry, your appointment isnt until after ive done my meds/lining cycle, so you'll have to come back then". I thought it was a bit lame to be honest but i tried it and it kinda works. Im using it for my "what if my donor cycle fails? " worries and i say, "sorry, remember, we're not worrying about that until after you get a bfn". Anyway, i just wanted to try and suggest some strategies or ways of thinking that might help but feel free to tell me to pee off if thats how you feel coz its ok to feel however you feel mate :-) xox
Thanks @gorgeousgeorge X