So a bit of background first -
Back in 2011 when I was 21 my now ex husband and I found out he was infertile and thus begun ivf using donor sperm. In 2012 after numerous ivf cycles and 2 miscarriages I had a batch of 7 embryos frozen. Jan 2013 I had 2 put back in. Fell pregnant with twins and sadly lost one but now have beautiful 3 year old son.
Fast forward to Feb of this year and we decide to implant 1 embryo to try for baby number 2. Low and behold it works first go.
7 weeks into this pregnant ex husband decides he wants out - he leaves us (long story short anyway!).
So here I am at 30 weeks pregnant with baby boy number 2, full time single mum with 100% care. Live in a different state to ex and he has visited DS once all year.
We have 3 frozen embryos left in storage.
And here is where lies the big issue. Our 3 remaining embryos. They have no genetic link to him but I went through hell and back to get them. He has said *for now* he's happy for me to keep them. He said in the future if I want to use them I can but he would want to be their father. Fair enough I agree to that, he did go through the IVF with me. HOWEVER he said that if he is in a relationship down the track then he might not feel this way anymore. Which I also get. I know there would be very few women wanting their partner to have kids with their ex.
But where does this leave me? Do I pay thousands to keep the embryos frozen for a few more years in hopes he won't enter a new relationship?
It would absolutely kill me to destroy those embryos. I know what they can turn into. They are my babies possible siblings. Morally I would feel wrong for the rest of my life.
There are soooo many issues to address here and I know a lot of people will say seek legal advice but I just can't afford that right now (we will both have to before I can use them anyway but right at this point of time it isn't feasible and I won't be using them until I'm financially well off anyway).
My head is so jumbled at what to do. As is ex husbands.
I hope all this makes sense. Any advice please?!?!